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writes:My girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 months, we havent kissed yet and i really want to.I mean i've been kissed by other people before but ive never really had to be the one to start it and the other ones just sort of happened. I get really nervous and i can never do it. how can i get over it and just do it?I don't want to make a fool out of myself. How do you kiss someone without saying anything and it being awkward?After our first kiss when I see her again should I be greeting her with a kiss? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (18 July 2015):
 I mean "your Dad" and of course I shouldn't overlook your Mom! They were your age once, believe it or not! They will have some memories of what it was like to be your age and feel the way you do.
So I think my advice is to first ask the parent you feel more comfortable getting advice from! :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 July 2015):
As you've been kissed by other people, can you remember how they initiated the kiss?
And why are you pushing yourself to do something that you're not really ready to do?
I think you Dad may have some advice on this, I would start by asking him.
And if you are feeling super awkward and very nervous, I think that's perfectly normal.
I think most people just kind of close their eyes and gently press lips together. It's not much more than that, at first. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2015): Here's a way. Give her something sweet. Like a chocolate or piece of candy. When it's all done; then ask her to close her eyes. Give her a gentle kiss on the lips. Nothing sloppy and no tongue. You have to have her permission to go that far.
Don't worry. You'll become more and more comfortable with time. She may even ask you to, or kiss you first! Don't overthink this or be worried. She's still around after two months; and that pretty much means she likes you and your shyness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2015): It's so easy to overthink this and that's what you're doing - which is understandable.
My first kiss was special because it was natural and happened on its own. We had kissed on the cheek and forehead before it and we just ended up standing facing each other, in my living room, and both slowly leaned in, without really thinking about it.
I think it will probably end up being awkward if you stress about it.
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reader, Abella +, writes (18 July 2015):
 Try going slowly so that things are entirely natural.
If she says something you think is lovely as you are saying good night then give her a kiss on her forehead. One brief kiss that is, on her forehead.
Make it brief and keep you lips closed. Then smile and say your good byes. She will probably not wash her forehead for a week. It should delight her.
Break the ice after that by getting into the habit of giving her a greeting kiss. You can start on her cheek and once again keep your lips closed.
You could even try a butterfly kiss where you "kiss" her cheek with your eye lashes. That can delight a girl too.
Once you are more comfortable she may even ask you to kiss her on her lips. If she does ask then oblige her. If you feel able to.
If you are still really anxious then you could ask her if you could kiss her on her lips. If she is bothered then back off until she is comfortable.
But after all her kisses on the forehead and on her cheeks then she may initiate a few kisses of her own.
Then you could have a discussion with her on how she would like to be kissed and do listen very carefully to her thoughts on this.
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