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41-50,
*enniferp
writes:Hi I am a 25 year old woman who has been in a relationship for almost seven years. I am extremely unhappy with my situation. I have no children, but my partner has 3... from 3 different "relationships". Two of the children (aged 7 and 8) live not too far from me nad the other (aged 15) is overseas and my bf is flying him over to live with us.Am I unreasonable to deperately want to get out of this relationship? I feel there is no future for us, and he is definitely not the kind of peron I want fathering my children, but I find it very hard to get out of this relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): Females all think they can date losers when they're young and just "have some fun" and "experience what's out there" and all that. But that's not how it works. When you date someone for years you are giving them huge pieces of yourself. You get attached, It's HARD to break up with him later. You'll fall in love with a loser and spend your life with a loser if you set yourself up to do so by dating losers for years. It doesn't matter whether you originally thought you wanted to end up with a loser or not. It's a hard thing to leave him now, especially since he's all you've really known of love. But you need to. This breakup is more case of having to "pay the piper" for all the naughty thrills of dating this bad boy for so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): Just do it. You're not getting any younger. I made that decision to leave my b.f. of 5 years when I was 25 years old and I was scared, and I didn't want to be alone. But I made myself do it b/c I knew that if I didn't, I'd never find happiness. Now I'm 26 and married to someone else, a friend of 7 yrs. We have a 7 mo old daughter & another on the way. We are buying a house this month. I am so happy that I left my ex. You're not happy now and you can't see him fathering your kids, so why stay? Just leave him.
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