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How can I get my man to cry during sex?

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Question - (28 July 2008) 16 Answers - (Newest, 14 November 2009)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I'm just a little curious I would like to know how many men out there have actually cried during sex and why?? I want to try to get my man to cry any tips, tricks, and or advice to help me with that on a serious note I've heard about men crying because of great sex now I want to see if I can make it happen. I haven't had sex with him yet I just gave him oral Please help all jokes and games aside.

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A female reader, msliteskn United States +, writes (14 November 2009):

well i have made my man and also my ex cry. i still to this day dont know why they cried and it kinda freaked me out. i know for sure that i have great sex and it has happened not once but three times my man tries not to let me see it but i do and when i ask why he gives me no responce.

all i do is give him what i think he wants take control of the night and give it to him the best way you can i bet you it will bring tears to his eyes. i dont think oral sex will bring the tears out alone you really have to show him that u know what u are doing

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009):

am a 49 year old male with what I believe to be a very unique & mind blowing condition.

Short back ground, Have been sexually active since an early age (13) with the opposite sex. Although I have not had a very large number of lovers/partners ( approx 12-14 ) I have always been very sexually active either with a partner or with my self and have had many orgasms ranging from mild erotic to mind blowing !!

Fast forward 10`s of thousands of orgasms to now, I have recently begun a new relationship with some one I have known for 20 yrs plus ,we were friends ,I was invited to her wedding, Iâ??ve done numerous construction related jobs in her home & recently we connected in a way far greater than I/we have ever experienced . Without going into detail of how truly connected we seem to be ,we have sexual relations for approx 3 months , during which time I have been hesitant to cum inside of her due to her concerns of pregnancy (although I had a V 13 years ago ) and my respect for her concerns (FYI we have both had a battery of clear std tests )

Two weeks ago we were making love , she had a few orgasms & I was ready to have mine when she said I want you to cum inside of me ! we talked about it & I was pleased not to have to pull out so I could feel the complete nonstop fulfillment of the orgasm .As I am starting to climax ,a new feeling started to approach ,something I have never experienced before ? I started to feel the surge of something new starting at the center of my body & flooding my body with new sensations Iâ??ve never experienced ,the orgasm started ,then those sensations were held in suspension as if It was on pause, but I could still feel everything, then as I continue to progress in the orgasm the sensations grow & grow & grow to something I can not describe in words ! Then as I am about to release my cum the feeling grows to such a height but still not released then it starts to happen!!!!! I feel it building up in my sinuses then in my throat then in my eyes as well as my whole body,mind & soul & I`m not sure whats happening as I start to feel uncontrollable ,cant hold it back ,downright flood of tears & crying as though I have seen the birth of my first child or I have just seen the face of God!!!!!

This happened 2 weeks ago & then yesterday but yesterdays was far more intense that two weeks ago! Please know that this has only happened the two times I have cumed inside her . All other times were more powerful than any orgasm in the past, be it through oral sex or vaginal sex with pull out, then masturbation.

I am to say the least blown away by this

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A female reader, tasteslikecanadian Canada +, writes (14 January 2009):

My partner has only ever cried ONCE during sex, and it was a result of a very deep emotional connection resulting from my not freezing/flashbacking/otherwise freaking out during sex for the first time ever. [I am a survivor of multiple rapes.]

You really need to explain what kind of tears you want. Tears of pain/fear, I recommend any good BDSM site for tips and tricks. Tears of love/joy ... make him fall really in love with you. Which is different for every guy, and even then not a guaranteed way to make it happen.

Maybe look into role playing, have him in the role of someone who is upset and crying? Dunno how good an actor he might be, but it could be worth it to look into.

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A female reader, BigSis United Kingdom +, writes (1 August 2008):

BigSis agony auntHA!! I said that to my ex husband when we first did it, I thought he was gonna cry....poor sod.

: )

x

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (1 August 2008):

Collaroy agony auntHi,

Ask him "is it in?"

that should produce a few tears.

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A male reader, LazyGuy Netherlands +, writes (31 July 2008):

LazyGuy agony auntSimple, start a blowjob, then bite down. He will do anything you please.

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A female reader, BigSis United Kingdom +, writes (31 July 2008):

BigSis agony auntI know you said jokes aside, but I couldn't resist, so please forgive me here for a moment.

Does he have a cat or dog or even a hamster by any chance? If he does and loves it dearly, then just as he's about to orgasm, tell him it got run over and was splattered all over the roadside, that might work.

Ooh, I'm so cruel, sorry.

BigBadWickedSis

xXx

ps...On a serious note, Hon, I've never had that experience of making a guy cry during my love making, however, I've cried on a few occasions where it was so wonderful and passionate that I was overwhelmed or over~cum with emotion or passion or whatever you want to call it, it was just that perfect feeling of sheer blissfulness.

Ahhhhh...*sighs*...wonder if I'll ever have that again?

So, if you can find a way to make your man cry during sex, and if that's what you really want, then I hope you can make it happen. I wish I could help, sorry.

Good luck trying.

BigNiceSis

: )

xXx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008):

I never doubted you, Diovan. I just had never heard of it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008):

Oh dear troubletoomuch, it can happen, here's evidence to back me up... sorry babes, but I couldn't find anything about men doing it.

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-do-orgasms-make-me-cry.html

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A male reader, daletom United States +, writes (30 July 2008):

I will guess you mostly want this to happen just to say that you have done it. Boost your confidence about what a great bed partner you are. Sort of a "notch in the bedpost" - the way some guys brag about the number of virgins they have deflowered.

Well, obviously, I think those are some pretty shallow reasons. Making sex a performance ultimately devalues both the sex and the person.

But for the record - yes, guys DO cry during sex. I can think of only one time that it happened to me: on my wedding night, when my wife and I gave each other our virginity. It was a reaction to a very complicated and very intense emotional experience. I can't imagine any circumstances where it might ever happen to me again.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008):

Oh, I didn't want to give the impression that I thought Diovan was wrong. Far from it. She is very knowledgeable and I believe her. It's just that I have never heard of it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008):

I get pretty loud whan I orgasm, but it is far from crying. Perhaps if you are really bad in bed he will sob a bit.

I see that Diovan has given you an answer, but I have never heard of it. Where did you get the idea that this is common or even occasionally happens?

I know that my wife and I have cried out of happiness or relief at times, but not even close to crying during sex.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (28 July 2008):

I think I'd be very worried if my guy started crying during sex.

The only suggestion I could make is to stab him with a fork.

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008):

Yes, it has happened to me, but it takes a lifetime of education and experience to do that. There is no space to even begin to explain how to do it here. I would suggest you read the Karma Sutra to begin your search... It's not tips and tricks, but it is expert lovemaking and education that does that... It's helpfull if the man loves you as well.

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A female reader, Fiona xxx United Kingdom +, writes (28 July 2008):

Fiona xxx agony auntPlease clarify your intentions and where you are coming from with the cry issue.

No guy I have ever been with has cried during or after sex.

Feel a bit confused by your question that's all.

Fiona. xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008):

Are you serious? you WANT to make a man CRY? oh that poor guy. guys get VERY embarrassed crying - esp during sex. the guys that you know are obv very in touch with their feminine side. Have you warned your boyfriend of your upcoming plans to make him cry?

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