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writes:I'm 33 and have a 26 year old gf that is a virgin. She was extremely shy when first dating and is still very quiet on sharing feelings but getting better. It has been hard to get her to express herself and often meets me on level of shared feelings about each other but rarely ever takes a leap in that regard. I only see her once a week but we've been dating for seven months. Physically she still seems tense. How can I relax a person that refuses to give me any real feedback as to what she wants without being too pushy? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2009): well i am only 16 but i know exactly what you are talking about.... as far as i can remember my trust has been broken reely reely badly :( mostly by guys :( this reely afected me as every guy that tried to get close to me i used to always swear at them... even if someone whistled at me i would proper swear at them... coz a felt bit insecure about it... girls can be really sensitive about trust e.t.c especially shy girls.. you only see her once a week so if you can, spend more time with her.. show her you care and text or call her daily just to ask how she is doing... don't say much else... this shows her that your willing to wait until she is ready to open up... just be yourself and try to cheer her up... i hope i helped :) x
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reader, juli3ann  +, writes (10 February 2009):
I wouldn't do anything apart from be yourself let her know you like her etc she may have been messed about before and some people esp girls find it hard to trust people i think she'll let you know when she's ready and like you say you've been together for 7 months but onlt see her a few times in that 7 months so just be patient is its for real you'll respect that and doing anything different may push her away. Hope this helps x
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