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writes:i am 29 yrs old and my boyfriend depends totally on me for finanances yet he has a job i have confronted him many times but he still does it how do i tell him that this hurts me very much and i cant take it anymore i feel that the only reason that he is with me is because i earn a good salary it hurts me so much to even think that way. what should i do please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, ManchesterDude  +, writes (25 May 2011):
Doesn't the guy pay for the dates? I'm a guy and would be ashamed to have a girl pay. Sounds like he's got all the power in the relationship, make him work for you not the other way round. That way you maintain respect for ya self. You could just stop going out and wait for him to invite you out if at a resturant and he expects you to pay just walk out before him then he has to pay. A girl did that to me once and in the end she used me as a cash cow. I guess its only fair to split the bill. If not move onto a guy that pays for everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Well sweetie start doing your own thing. What I mean by this start saving your money and pay what you need to pay and save the rest. So when he ask you just I don't have any money left I paid what needed to pay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2007): Your boyfriend sounds like he is a real tight wad, if he earns his own money and he constantly sponges off of you or expects you to pay your own way all of the time on dates, then he is telling you something important about himself...he doesn't think you or your relationship is worth spending some of his own money on.
Beware of guys like this, he may not be telling you the truth about his intentions or see this relationship of yours as long term material...that would be my instincts on the matter, and I would threaten my removal from the relationship, by creating some major distance and saying no, I don't have any change, get your own.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (24 February 2007):
 Ask him what he does with his own money? Tell him you're not working hard every week to hand it over to him. Let him know he's bang out of order asking you for money all the time and it's really starting to get to you. Does he have no self respect?
If it continues then kick him to the kerb, if it's like this NOW, can you imagine how it would be if you were ever to be married?
Eve
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