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writes:is she making a fool out of me? why wont she cater to me anymore? i cater to her now and i spoil her, but i cant even get any sexual attention from her. she wont even make out with me anymore. she used to love sex, she used to be almost as horny as i am. what can i do to get my baby to want me again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for your advise
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 Been there. Two things possible.
1-She is going through somethng personal, a physical problem, or remembering some past trama and that is making it diffcult for her to feel arousal. If that is the case, encourage her to seek counselling..a professional, not just you listening to her problems, that will make you more of a friend to her than a lover.
2-Sometimes being with the same person for a long time, makes our bodies feel less arousal, as (biologically speaking) our bodies know that we have already had sex with that person before. One of the direct ways that I have used to combat this EXACT issue (I teach seminars on this topic). She needs to see other women be attracted to you. That will give her body the biological signals that she should want you as well. I am not saying you need to cheat on her, but she needs to witness other women checking you out. Perhaps a trip to a local swingers club, so that different people will be hitting on the both of you might do it. I got one lover to get turned on again, when I introduced her to a bisexual woman (that I already knew liked me) and she made a pass at BOTH OF US. Well, that did it. Her libido was back.
Lastly, does she feel more like your MOTHER than your LOVER? If so, she may be cheating on you, and does not feel right sleeping with more than one man at a time, but for now, try the suggestions above, and in any case, they should solve the challenge.
Good Luck.
-FBK
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reader, cd206  +, writes (15 May 2007):
 Find out what's causing the problem by talking to her but don't take the direction woe is me because there might be something she can't communicate to you and she needs your acceptance and understanding of whatever her issue is. Nobody here can tell you what the problem is, only she can. Just ask her if she's ok cos she seems disinterested in sex recently and you love her so much you want to know whats going on with her.
CD
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