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writes:hello I;m a 48 years old woman I have this friend we are very very very close with each other we tell each other everything. We have known each other since we was little girls but now we are in our 40s. i was in a long term relationship with this guy and i reallty did love him at first but he stared to mess around on me and i broke it off with him. I now know i don;t have anymore feeling left in my body for him.Lately I have been having feeling for one of my best girl friends. i know she is married and she have a 8 years old daughter and she work at the bank. I cant stop feeling what i feel in my heart for her. i find myself giving all kinds of gifts i never want to see her go without.. what ever it is I'm going to make sure she have it and more. i think about making love to her all the time she is the first person i think about when i get up in the morning and the last person i think about before i go to bed. this weekend was hard for me we find our self talking or texting each other all day ever day. I tell myself I'm going to talk to her today so she can miss me some but i find my self going back on my word. I'm calling her or I'm texting her and i cant have her the way i feel for her!god she means the world to with all my heart but the one thing i will fear if i tell her how i really feel about her i think i will loose her! And i want her to stay in my life so i take what i can get for now like spending time with her when i can or just riding in her car with her! when we in her car god i just wish the moment would last but the time go by so fast. she is so sweet and i have to say she is very sexy. i went to event she was in charge of i got my ticket from her so she will get credit for it for job at work. the ticket was 100 dollers i did not care how much it cost i just wanted to be near her. when i got there she looked so damn sexy she had on a real short dress purple black heels i wanted to take in my arms so bad and give her all the love i have in my heart for her. she is my world and ahe means so much to me i told my self if i never tell her how i really feel for her and if i was on my death bed thats when i will tell her how i feel for her. I just cant get over how she looked in that dress she is a true godess and i love her but my heart hurt so bad because i cant tell her how i feel and i want to so bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2013): you know some thing you are so right i guess i needed to here it from some one eles.i do care for her so much and she do mean a lot to me when i think about what you said and you are right i will not feel good knowing i was the one who broke up her marrige and when i stand back and look at the big pictuer she is inlove with her husband and i know she love me like a sister i guess i was feeling so cloest to her becaues she have been spending so much time with me i uesd to work for her she was my boss for 16 years but sent i;m not working for her any more we have became so cloes and u are right i would not feel right brecking up family up like that ; I don;t want to hurt her in know kind of way but i know she will always mean so much to me. but i ;m big enough to stand back and let her live her life with her husband but my heart will be cloes to her.i love her enough to let her go and stay with her family. like i said i never do anything to hurt her . so for know i will just stand back and love her from afar thank you for you advice
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 March 2013):
It may seem like you love her, but in my opinion love is only something two people in a relationship can share, other than a friend/family love.
The reason I say that is because no one is perfect, but until you have been intimately involved with someone it can feel like they are. So you probably love her as a person and are attracted to her as a mate, which makes you feel "in love."
You need to take a step back and look at this situation for what it is:
The best case scenario for you is that she'll break up her family to be with you. Is that fair to them? Do you want to be step mom? Would your friend ever be able to be "out of the closet" for you?
The worst case scenario is that your confession destroys your friendship.
Middle ground is that you may have an affair or threesomes with her but she never leaves her husband.
None of those are good options, so you should just accept that things are too complicated to push on, and move on with your life. Just try and stop putting her on a pedestal and be friends again. If that means you need to see her less than so be it.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 March 2013):
 Tough situation. You can't really confess your feelings because she's married, has a child, and seems to be happy. Unrequited love sucks. I'm sure she loves you, but not in the way you want. That's never easy.
How do you get along with her husband? Is he nice? Have you two ever shared sexual fantasies with each other?
I ask these questions because that might be a fun conversation for you to gauge her possible reaction from your confession. Share a bottle or two of wine and start the dirty talk. Who knows, maybe she's fantasized about being with a woman. Or her and her husband have fantasized about having a threesome with another woman. I know, I've got a dirty mind, but I think you see where I was headed with that.
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