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How can I figure out if he wants a relationship?

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Question - (24 December 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 24 December 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:


On Wednesday I was out clubbing with my friends, I ended up kissing this guy - He asked for my number which I gave him. I didn't expect him to text me but he did today. However I don't know if I want a relationship atm as I have so many other things going on in my life.

What should I do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011):

Just see how things go. He may go no further than texting or he may not want a relationship yet himself.

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A female reader, celtic_tiger United Kingdom +, writes (24 December 2011):

celtic_tiger agony auntI do think you are rushing things very slightly.

The facts are you went clubbing and made out with a random guy and you swapped numbers.

This happens all the time in clubs and bars across the world and 99.99999% of the time it is not for love but purely about sex.

You don't know ANYTHING about this boy. He is a total stranger. You have met him once and he has text you once.

Personally, I wouldn't have kissed him, mainly because he was a total stranger, but that is just me.

This is not the grounding to be thinking about relationships. He is probably only thinking about his penis (sorry to be so graphic). Men typically 'pull' girls in clubs and bars for one reason only. Sex. They see who are the receptive girls (who will snog them) and get their numbers, then when they feel bored, they call them up.

Most (I say this as I am sure there are SOME genuine guys out there) of the time they are not looking for relationships, but a bit of fun.

If you like him, then talk to him. Get to know him. Go out on dates with him. A relationship comes over time, after dating and getting to know each other. Not after one drunken snog and a text message.

Be careful - he may be honorable, but also he may just want to use you.

Tiger x

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A male reader, Ldu Canada +, writes (24 December 2011):

lol hold on hun Dont get ahead of yourself . How can you already be thinking about a relationship? . You random made out with a stranger at a club . I Dont see how you can be contemplating a relationship versus not having one. I suggest you just talk to him, get to know him, go on dates etc see what happens. And Thats only if you want to .

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