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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am really self conscious about how my body looks. I was extremely overweight (I was 14 st 6lb on a 5 ft tall frame) I have been losing weight for about three years I got down to 11st 2lb last year but sadly I let things slip and shot up to 12 st 9lb but have lost weight again now weighing 12st 1 lb and hoping to continue this downward trend. But I feel so insecure about how i look. My skin is so soft and lose I cant show my arms because they are really wobbly and disgusting and my belly is flabby. My skin just hasn't shrunk back. I don't go to a gym but I walk lots and I do a regular dvd ..dancercise and boxercise and target my arms andni do sit ups. My belly I can cope with but its my arms that are a mess. Without surgery I cant correct them ever. I cant afford surgery either. I know its of my doing and if I could turn back time and do things differently i would...How can I get over these issues. Its hard to find clothes that suit my sagging body. I don't feel like I will ever have an intimate relationship with a man because they might be disgusted...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2015): You are doing well by keeping up the exercises and dieting.The only way to lose weight is by eating less, sensible eating, and exercising or by surgery which I don't advice because it is not natural way to lose weight.Also you should have an active social life,meet people who have the same weight problems and compete with then in the weight losing contest. Keep in mind that losing weight the second time is harder, as for the sagging skin, it will disappear by time. Choose a hobby to fill your free time and most important have a steel like willpower and patience to keep up the dieting and to get ahead in life despite the odds.Yes it is true we men prefer thin women. Keep that in mind too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2015): A lot of the younger aunts and uncles with less life experince may give advice on fitness and training but in reality this is a psychological issue and way to address it is to look at your thought processesOf course keep up the physical stuff as its great for anyone but the most important thing is to look at why a mans opinion of your body is so impirtant to you Everyday I visit this site more and more women are worried about Thiet bodies and how men see them. The knowledge that most men condition themselves to the perfect bodies of Internet porn is destroying many women's self esteem and its way past time that women started giving me the big finger over this ( all respect to any man who doesn't live by the mysogynistic attitudes of society) I was reading only yesterday recent research has shown that only 2 percent of women consider themselves sexy . Honestly, when will society learn.You need go really examine what it means to live in your body and how you can be happy with that . A therapist may be necessary of a group where you can talk to people who affirm what is good about life and you. Believe me , there is so much more to you than how anyMan sees you
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