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writes: I'm 14 and my parents won't let me stay out past 8 o'clock, all my friends are allowed out until 10 and i feel really stupid having to go home so early like a baby and they are all meeting new people and i feel like i have no friends out of school beacuase i always have to leave. My mum says that as i earn trust i can have more time out but how do i earn trust?Any advise any one please? I'm desperate! thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, confussed jane +, writes (16 September 2006):
i ant sure hun but i am used be same when was younger i had be in 8pm even on friday no matter how hard i tryed she never changed
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reader, sarah y +, writes (16 September 2006):
Have you done something that has given them reasons not to trust you?If you have then as your mum says you need to earn it.But if you have not then you need to talk to your parents and let them know you respect them but you would like to stay out a little later.Ask them to consider a trial period of say 2months as long as you ring them to let them know your safe at a certain time and again before you leave your friends house so they know your on your way home.After this 2month period you could ask them how they feel about it and you`ll compromise by only staying out late on a non school night........Good luck.
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reader, gracie lou +, writes (16 September 2006):
 have you done anything in the past to make your parents lose trust? or has it always been this way?
if you did something that lost their trust, well then the way they're treating you is all that can be expected, and you're gonna have to take your curfew and eventually they will trust you again becuase your parents love you unconditionally and eventually they will forgive you and trust you again.
but if you havent done anything in the past to lose their trust, just say you're doing something one night, haha and maybe if its the only thing thats gonna work, say you have to go over to a friends house to finish a school project and that it'll take you till atleast nine. since it's something as important as school, they have to let you go.
haha, but i kinda just seem to be the devil's advocate. maybe you should just approach them in a respectful manner and ask them to give you a little more freedom. say that you know your friends are not a priority, but that when you are finished with all your more important things (ie. homework, chores) you should have a little more freedom to spend your spare time with your friends. and if they go with the "you need to earn our trust first" thing, then just plainly ask them how you can do that.
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