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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have a few questions. First, how do I communicate so he can't turn every problem around on me?Why can't he try to see and fix his faults for good? (He changes for a few days then goes right back to normal...)Why won't he stay home with me during the last week of my pregnancy to help me prepare for our second child? Worst and Last, why do give him as much space as he wants and keep thinking one day he will see how much I love him and everything I have been saying for the last seven years will click instantly. Reply to this Question
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reader, nologo  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 Thank you for asking all your questions here, sister.
I will give you one sentence answers to each of them.
First, you communicate with your partner raising one problem at a time and saying WE instead of YOU.
"Why can't he try to see and fix his faults for good?"
He lacks motivation for doing this - that is the reason.
"Why won't he stay home...": he has inadequate priorities.
As you wrote this Last sentence, I recommend you start preparing for terminating this relationship, because the situation may worsen rather than improve.
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reader, Straight Up  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 you need to sit him down and talk about the problems your having with him. you need to let him understand how your feeling there no point bottling it inside you. never give him the easy way out. when his trying cause problems don't let him. allow him to face up to his fault plz don't be a push over stand firm. goodluck in confronting him
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