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How can I coax guys out of the closet and have a boyfriend again?

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Question - (16 May 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 19 May 2011)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, *eyland-Yutani writes:

OK, so, in March, I ended a year and a quarter length long-distance relationship to be with a guy who was in my local area, who I then got broken up with by for stupid reasons, long story xD

Basically, the latter of the two was my first 'real' boyfriend, and although I'm over him, I kinda miss the idea of having someone. It's non-essential, but I really would like a boyfriend.

Now here's where the difficulty comes, I'm 16 and gay, and I'm, what, one of the only two people out of the closet at my school? And the guy I went out with was in the closet, both of them were actually. I don't like the idea of joining a club or anything - I can socialise? But I rarely get the opportunity to, given that I'm more of a schoolmate rather than a party animal (Which I would honestly give anything to be).

Does anyone have any advice on how I could, I dunno, coax some guys out of their shells so maybe someone would pluck up the want/courage to ask me out, or maybe find someone myself?

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A male reader, aaringurl Philippines +, writes (19 May 2011):

16, hmm... and you've just got out on a long relationship... My best advice for you now is to not find one yet. Concentrate on your studies. You're now given the chance to focus more on and to fix somethings(if there is) with yourself.

My less better advice would be, yeah, ask someone you suspect to be gay, BUT, befriend them first. Don't just pop up all of a sudden and say 'Movies?'. Let time pass, befriend them, and then you ask them out.

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A male reader, Kokoro United States +, writes (17 May 2011):

Kokoro agony auntWell now when I was 16 what I did was try to find someone who you may think is gay, sometimes try asking them out, like to a movie or whatever it is you or they like to do. If things go ok then you know that they maybe are interested in dateing you. I hope it goes well :)

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