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writes:I don't feel close to my parents at all. I love them loads don't get me wrong and we have a laugh I just don't feel like I can talk to them about serious topics because they'll judge me or they'll make suggestions I maybe don't think are helpful, then they get annoyed and they're like "we're trying to help" I just don't know what to do anymore, how can I become closer to them? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 April 2013):
 time... the only thing that will make this happen is time.
because right now the way they see things is based on age and experience which you don't have so what they say seems crazy to you... as you age, they will get smarter.... and then you will get closer.
teens are not supposed to be close to their parents... just relax and let it happen over time. (about ten years to be honest)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (30 April 2013):
 You just need to give your parents some credit and trust them more. They are your parents, they will love you no matter what you do in life (unless you decide to murder someone!) so they are not going to judge you. They were teenagers once too, I know it was a long time ago but they will remember what it was like!
So give them a chance and if you have a serious topic you want to discuss, then go and talk to them. They wont judge you and they will love you no matter what, so have a bit of faith in them and in return they will have faith in you too.
As for the suggestions, this is just typical of all teenagers. I dont think any teenager on earth will ever think their parents suggestions are helpful, so you'll pull a face or disagree and then your parents will think 'what's the point she's not listening to me'. I used to do that with my mum all the time, I'd talk to her about something, she'd make a suggestion, I'd think her suggestion was rubbish then she'd get annoyed that I wasnt listening to her.
These problems you are having with your parents are the same problems that 99% of teenagers around the world have with their parents. So if they make a suggestion that you dont agree with, instead of pulling a face (you might think you are not making faces but all teenagers pull a face when they are told something they dont like!) say 'thank you for listening and thank you for helping me, I'll have a think about it and talk to you later when I've made my mind up'. So you dont have to agree with them, but you dont need to be rude about it either - just say thank you and you'll go away and think about it so your parents know you have listened and you havent ruled their idea out immediately.
Chances are though, your parents will be right - even if the idea sounds stupid at first 99% of the time your parents are always right and always know best. I learnt that the hard way with my parents, I always thought I was right but 99% of the time I was wrong and my mum knew best!
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reader, DanosaurPhillion +, writes (29 April 2013):
 If you talk to them more and more then at some point you will be able to talk to them about anything.
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