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writes:i please need some big advice that will convince my self that everything will be ok. i am a student. and yesterday we have this exam. i study a lot for a past few 7 months.its actually give me a big pressure, depression and hard migraine. i was really concentrated in my study the whole 7 months. but why is it like that?yesterday is my exam i am not really in my self. i dont know what happen, i just dont know. i dont know if i make it right, i was really not fit during the test and the question is not really coming into my brain. i just dont know what happen. i have a feeling i fail the test. the result will be in 6 weeks and i am very very scared about the result. im really scared to failed. i know its part of my ego but someone here can understand? that i worked a lot just to pass this test and now im not sure anymore. i worked 7 months without any break just to make it this test and now i think i blow it all. i have to wait 6 weeks and now im in a 1st day of waiting and im getting crazy already. i cant sleep, i cant eat im just totally down and depress to the coming result. its only now 1st day what about the whole 6 weeks? how far i can go on this?my husband tell me everything will be ok and if i dont make it then i'll take again. and thats what im scared of, i dont wanna do it again 7 months and do the same procedure. i am already tired, stress and depress. please anybody.. everybody who can understand me, please give me some advice, how can i over come this? how can i be feel ok what ever the result is? how can i relax my self, calm down and let go this things. please im really , really down right now.. thanks to you all
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): i thank you to both of you, this is very helpful. thank you very much for the effort and time to give me advice, it really help me. i will try to take this all advice you two give to me. yes i think this is also part of asian mentality not to fail the test. i will come back here again after 6 weeks and let you know what happen. again thank you very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): Hi there,
As someone who comes from the SEA too, I can understand your pressure. Trust me. We feel good when we did good on test, and we feel like trash if we failed a test. That's asian thing, maybe? (j/k)
In all seriousness, you can not do anything right now except waiting. You can not turn back time, or make it goes faster. You can spend all day worrying or just try to forget it until you get the result. You deserved some slack after 7 months of hard working.
Personally I do believe that you will make it. Even a person who learn two hours a day one month before an exam can make it. 7 months of intense learning will never go to waste, you probably even score high.
Don't worry so much, because you can affect people around you too. Rather spend more time with them, tell them that you need support and distraction. They'll gladly give that to you.
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reader, nadia07  +, writes (29 July 2010):
I can understand your predicament. I am a tutor in the university, and I have seen some of my students who even had a nervous breakdown because of their exams. The pressure to pass and do well and the anxiety that you will fail are the main causes for this.
My advice is: Do not think too much whether you pass or fail. Whatever will happen, will surely happen. It is great that you worked hard for the past 7 months, and there's a good chance that you did well. You could only do to the best of your capability, you have done your best, the rest you leave it to God. :)
From my personal experience, failure is not the worst thing in the world. I have failed a major exam before, but in the end, it made a better tutor as it helps me deal with both good students as well as problematic students. That is because I could understand what they went through, how frustrated they are, I see things from their eyes and not from mine. It helps me learn from my mistakes. :)
Stay cool, stay calm, and just wait and see. The results may be better than what you feared them to be ! Be happy. :)
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