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How can I be as hot as a porn star?

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Question - (31 January 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 2 March 2009)
A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

How can I be as hot as a porn star?

I'm really adventurous in bed, but how can I be really hot? Equally hot as a porn star? I'm not trying to make my bf stop watching (he's not addicted and he's offered to stop, but I don't want to control him). But I want to know what can I do to be as hot as them in his eyes so when he watches I won't feel inferior? The only thing I can't do is surgery because it's too expensive and it scares me (but are big breasts a must? he watches big breast porn).

I feel a bit inadequate and yes, he loves me but that doesn't make me feel any more desirable than them, because he thinks I'm pretty and he loves my wit, my company, my talents, etc, but when it comes down to sex I'm not gonna be telling him stories or cracking jokes or playing a tune in the guitar during intercourse, now am I? Of course it's amazing that he loves me and is such a great guy but it makes me self conscious that he lusts after women with bodies that are not like mine (big breasts, toned, etc). He says he likes mine but of course some women have better bodies and some men have better bodies, but I don't watch porn nor ogle other guys (seriously, I don't).

I know I sound young and naive but I need help as sometimes I hate my body because I know what porn stars look like. I've wathced what he watches.

Thanks.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009):

hey there, read my question, i'm in the same boat as you hun. i'm flat as a pancake and all he ever does is look at chics with big boobs and says remarks like "fark she's got some nice tits" but i know he does it for the pure fact of winding me up (boys will be boys) but i try not to take any notice. but it still does affest me that i'm not as attractive and voluptuous as thos porn stars. heres how to make you feel a bit better, think of hot actresses like mila jovovic. she's a mega hot babe and all the guys i know think she's a hot piece of arse and she's flat chested and she has the self respet and confidence not to give in to all the bullshit about big breasts.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009):

Hey! I totally get how you feel. Porn/fhm magazines even MTV has all got women who are percieved to be 'perfect looking'. It makes us feel pressured to look like that and feel inadequate. These people are right, you shouldn't want to compete with that-it is a never ending battle.

BUT sometimes its not enough to hear that because no matter who tells you what, if you are in that frame of mind its hard to get out of it and hard to draw the line.

A FEW TIPS: 1)Tan. Not sunbeds theyll dry your skin out and dry skin=cellulite and wrinkles. Also the orange look dosnt really appeal to many men. so try some evryday gradual tan-i use nivea.Tan makes you look more toned

2) Shaving. Know its a ball-ache but it really helps to make you feel sexier, my boyfriend can always tell when ive just shaved (even tho he says he doesn't mind if i dont) and LOVES IT.

3) Exercise. This should be number 1 really. Even if its not the gym or running or anything outdoorsy, get some exercise DVDs and do them. Squats are good for the bum and legs and situps and pressups too. itll make you feel better just doing something.

4)Dress up in bed for him (Ann summers/La sensa)

5)CONFIDANCE men love it when you push them on the bed and take control and show your in charge and confidant.

Hope this helps.x

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