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How can I approach this guy?

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Question - (17 April 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hello and thanks for reading my post.I'll try to keep it as short as I can.(wee!)

I've been talking to this guy on a website,he always initiated the conversation.We sent messages back and forth,never talked on IM or phone.He's smart,with a good sense of humor,and i always enjoyed reading messages from him.(I delete 80% of the messages i receive because they're not stimulating enough).It's been 2 months since we've last talked.We were in the middle of a conversation when he stopped replying.I tried messaging him (for the first time i was the one to initiate the convo) but he didnt respond.Since then,he has limited the times he would come online,and I havent been online much either.I do miss him and I want to know why the hell has he stopped messaging me?

Anway,after the initial shock I got because of the sudden *NON-communication*,I looked him up on facebook,and saw his family memebers and friends,all normal(Yeah I hate how we people actually take facebook seriously but smh) ..

I also have his email cause he sent me a song he composed himself. I don't wanna use it though,it might be too much. Like I mentioned,I looked him up on FB and myspace after we stopped talking,but I don't intend on messaging him on those sites.

Like yesterday,he was online and didn't talk to me.It feels weird cause he always was happy to message me.Some of you might say he got tired of messaging me first.he never complained about it nor he implied that he wanted me to contact him first too,plus when i did he didn't reply.

What would be a good approach?

NOTE : I want you guys to focus on what I'm asking and not on how pointless this is blah blah blah.

I thought of :

"Hey ...(name),I just found your song under my music file,I havent heard from you recently,whats up?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010):

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Like you know how guys are online,they will try to get to know you and sometimes come off hard,or theyre just not intresting enough. I'm not an internet newbie,so I can tell right off if theres chemistry with someone.

Thanks for answering :D

Well he had been laid off from his job when we used to talk,he might got himself a new job now...I'm trying to think of excuses,but the truth is there is no excuse for him not answering my message.Only reason I can think of...he's mad at me.

Which brings me to the conclusion that he holds crudges (because our last conversation wasn't that successful)...but that contradicts his easy going personality...he's not psycho to stop talking to me just because our last conversation wasn't as good as the previous ones(not that all the previous ones were 100% good either)

so ummm,yeah. Totally confused.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010):

I know for a fact that I am flattered when a girl takes interest in me and for a guy who sent you countless messages a day says that he took a great interest in you. It might be that he may have other things on his mind or that maybe you weren't reciporcating the gesture. What did you mean they weren't "Stimulating" enough?

The question you were looking to ask seems the best course of action. Not to invasive and suttle at the same time. Go with that.

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