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How can I approach this guy at work to see if he's interested in dating me?

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Question - (31 July 2016) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 August 2016)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I've been working with this guy for a year now and I just recently connected with him because we work in a factory that's very loud and fast paced.

He always said hi to me before we started talking because he thought I was cute and I never had a guy wave hi to me and be caught in a daze and that attracted me.

I come to find out it's not all superficial from a conversation almost a month ago we had, come to find out we're both empathic and we really connected off of that.

I also told him I was bisexual and he said that turned him on, so I'm guessing that hints that he was available. It's so deep that I'm crying because I think I may have found the one,but it's hard for us to talk because my voice is soft and you have to shout over the factory noise and sometimes I barely hear him.

It's so bad that I want to stop him this coming Tuesday while working and ask because my heart is heavy, but I want to be subtle.

I cant tell if he's dropping me hints like he said hi and asked me about my hobby and if I did anything new and I said "no I'm busy" walked off really fast because my heart sanked and we were Infront of people.

I think he thinks I would not date a man at all because I said "I only date women" which is partially true but I can make an exception. I just don't want to go to work anymore uncomfortable because I work with gossiping or people who let authority go to their head which is why I'm applying for new jobs.

I might have a new job I'm trying to speed up the process and I will never ever forgive myself! I hate I can't tell when a person is really nice or if that's their personality?

He did say I turned him on once. Please help me talk to him In a subtle way because I have to shout at work and people act like the factory police 24/7.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (16 August 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntCould you maybe find him on social media and talk to him there? It is not practical at work because it is fast paced and busy.

I do need to say though that it does not sound like you know each other very well and you are over thinking everything that he said. So do not come on to strong, just be friendly and ask him would he like to go on a date sometime to get to know each other a bit better and see how it goes.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2016):

I think you're thinking to much .. being turned on by the fact you like girls is every naughty man's dream .. some action .. saying hi ..what's your hobbies isn't love either .. I'm not saying he doesn't like you .. but you need to be very careful about what does he really like ?? You and the getting to know you . . With the this could lead to something nice ..

Heres a suggestion is there a cafe handy ?

Hand him a note with ..hey I'm like Lil voice so can't keep shouting above this noise about a coffee or tea somewhere nice insert name of venue and date time .. and let him reply to you ..

I wouldn't recommend dating at work but if your leaving that's cool .

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