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writes: My girlfriend of four months just dumped me. I really loved her a lot my loving feelings are gone now because I know she doesn't deserve me. I'll grant that we're both 16 and new at being in relationships. it was a long distance relationship of sorts she was only like 30 miles away. Anyway she just dumped me and then she said she had a crush on someone else the next day and she also said she never loved me. What reason could she possibly have for letting a relationship go 4 months if she didn't love me. I don't want her back. But I want to know why she thinks like that. i don't know how someone could convince someone that they love them and make them feel so great. And then just break it off and expect everything to be fine. I don't know...if anyone has any advice I'll take it.
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reader, happytochat  + ♥, writes (13 December 2005):
Hi there,
I'm sorry that you are having to go through the pain of a break up, its not goood but listen you will get through it and you will find happiness, whereever that be!
Ok so while in the relationship you felt like she loved you, right? And then she dumped you all of a sudden and the next day says she likes another guy?
Well maybe she didnt have those deep feelings for you that she portrayed, or perhaps she saw that the long distance relationship wasnt going to work out, so to spare any further hurt and dragging it out she decided to end it. I know it would of been better for her to be honest but some pople just arent.
Perhaps she wasnt sure of her own feelings. Or perhaps shes just one of those people who jumps a bit early at the gun and annoucnes there love for osmeone else without even thinking about it. I know its not fair that you have to suffer for her wrong doing, but you will be ok, you will. Talk to friends and family about this who can support you.
And yes she didn't deserve you, you are deserved by someone so much better! You truly seem liek a very caring and nice guy, qualities that many people look for in a friend and in a boyfriend.
take care and good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2005): hi, maybe she did not feel the relationship was going anywhere because it was a long distant relationship, or mabye due to lack of relationship experience she may have though if she had a crush or feelings for someone else tht it must mean she does not love you and she may have just gotten confused with her own feelings, i do think her saying she did not love you was abit over the top and really hurtful, i know this hole thing seems awful and you probably feel you will never get over it and you love her but dont worry your only 16 you have so much more of your future to come.
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