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Hook-up with life-long friend?

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Question - (27 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 27 July 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

After 10+ years of not seeing my childhood friend, we started contacting eachother, 5 months later we hung out a little bit. Right off the bat we were comfortable talking about everything, and I mean EVERYTHING; it was like we never lost touch. We hooked up a month later. I initiated it because I was curious and I because there was always an attraction even when we were younger--mind you we never dated. Yeah I like him in that way and he had no objection to the deed. We're both in out early 20's and we're both living seperate lives in completely different worlds. On several ocassions, he's texted me, telling me how awesome that night was and that he'd like to do it again. I feel the same way, but I want to take it to a deeper level. I can really see this guy as a long-term kind of guy, but considering that I'm making my own destiny and he's making his, I know I won't be able to put in all my energy into a committed relationship (unless it's long distance, but we all know how that turns out sometimes). I would pick up the phone right now, but what good would that do if we won't be living anywhere near eachother? I don't wanna be that gal that always asks, "Where is this going?" My heart's telling me one thing and my mind's telling me something else. Do y'all think he's being sincere? Half of me says yes, but the other half is telling me to be very cautious. I need varied opiions so I can make my own and present it to him face to face. HELP! :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010):

Ok first of all, not all long distance relationships turn out bad. Second you should follow your heart. If it's telling you that you should pursue a deeper relationship with your friend you should. Good Luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010):

Well since you have known him for such a long time and he was a childhood friend. I'm guessing he is most likely being sincere. You could always just ask him if he wanted a relationship or just sex. I mean what's the worse that happens? He say sex and you know to move on. Or he says relationship and you can start a conversation about the long distance thing.

Long distance can work. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now and he lives 3 hours away. If the distance is worth it too you I'd say go for it. Although save money for trips and webcams!

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