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His demands seem unreasonable. Am I being foolish?

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Question - (30 July 2017) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2017)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I have had a boyfriend for a long time and its got so he always wants back rubs and oral sexs all the time. I have told him that I do not want to do that without a condom. He prefers no condom. However for health issues I only do oral and other every once in a while so he has found someone again that will do all that. Finding women that will suck his dick and allow penetration without a condom is an easy find for him.

I still love him and I feel alone and deserted. When he only sees me when its convenient for him. I do favors for him also so maybe that is the only reason he is keeping me around. When this relationship that he is persueing fells he knows I will always be there for him. Am I being foolish? I had a hysterectomy a couple of years ago for cancer and I guess I am cured but I find discomfort when I have sex with him, plus my mouth always feels dirty after we do oral sex. I do not like the oral sex he requires all the time its sucks.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2017):

It sucks! ... Funny!

You do not have to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

he's a selfish one.

ask him to stop being selfish, cheating and filthy, bet you he won't, so don't stop being who you are for a diddlesquat of a human being!

Don't let it twist your head round anymore.

Get out!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (31 July 2017):

Honeypie agony auntHe seems like a user.

You do "things" for him so he sticks around but he cheats on you and has sex with other people.

What exactly is it about him that you like so much?

The lack of respect he has for you?

The lack of compassion and care for you?

YOU do not owe THIS (or any other) guy oral or sex on demand. If you aren't a fan of oral, then DO NOT do it. If sex is painful then don't HAVE sex.

I suggest you end it with this guy as you are UTTERLY incompatible.

Respect YOURSELF and end it.

He will soon find someone else to use. You, on the other hand, will feel lightened when you no longer feel pressured to do things you don't want to do and don't enjoy.

Yes, I get that it's nice not being alone but being with someone who is with you out of almost contempts? How is that better than being alone or looking for someone who will respect and care for you?

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A female reader, ALM12 United States +, writes (31 July 2017):

ALM12 agony auntHe's degrading you homegirl. Let him go. It might hurt for a moment but you know you deserve ALOT better!!!

And what do you mean he's finding other women to give him oral??? So I'm assuming he's cheating on you and then coming back around like things are normal?

Yea he sounds like am a**hole. Leave him be. Like I said it may hurt but know your worth.

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A male reader, Phil052 United Kingdom +, writes (31 July 2017):

Phil052 agony auntI have to say I am amazed you are still with this man, who uses you for his own gratification only. You deserve so much better, but only you can change things.

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A male reader, judgedick France +, writes (31 July 2017):

judgedick agony auntYOU HAVE LET THIS GUY WALK ALL OVER YOU, you know the risk of getting an STD from giving him oral if he is with many other women,

why let him into your life, you would be better off having nothing to do with this man,

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