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writes: So this guy and I have been together for almost two years. We are both virgins but take part in other sexual activity. Oral, handjobs, dry humping, etc etc. He has always had a really hard time getting me to orgasm but i've always just blamed it on myself. Lately when he touches me it is only for ten or fifteen minutes at a time. I worry that he is giving up on me. doesn't enjoy it anymore. or his attention deficit disorder is causing him to get bored of it. I have tried to confront him about it but he says that he enjoys doing it, and he doesn't really know why he quits so early.Does anyone have tips for getting him to try longer and keep him from getting bored. Or is there a way to know if he secretly has given up or doesn't enjoy it. I don't know what to do.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I have ADD and it doesn't stop me from making sure my partner "finishes" every time... Trust me, his shortcomings are not a result of his ADD.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut i think he wants me to finish him so bad that that is all he can concentrate on...thats why i thought it would be helpful to finish him first? am i wrong here? don't get me wrong...everything he does is amazing!!! i just wish there was more of it. more passion. more attention to detail. just more. when i "take care" of him i take into consideration every part of his body. his stomach neck mouth thighs...everything. i wish he had the same state of mind...i just can't figure out how to broaden his horizons.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 November 2010):
 Don't finish him first... It's like feeding a starving man turkey..
SHOW him what/how you like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow do i confront him? Or keep him interested? I think he is always just so excited for me to touch him and give him one of my "amazing blow jobs" (his words not mine). I have tried finishing him first but he is always so tired that he doesn't want to play with me. I love him dearly and don't want this to turn into a fight. But its been two years...i am ready for a little extra effort from him.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (8 November 2010):
I don't think its his ADD either, I think he is either just inexperienced or lazy.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (8 November 2010):
ADD really has nothing to do with it.
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reader, Ven +, writes (8 November 2010):
Actually having sex?
More than likely that is out of the question for the two of you, but there are a host of other things that can be done in the bedroom.
Go to a bookstore (Barnes and Noble is good for this) and find the sex section. Get him experimenting on your body - it will keep him from getting bored.
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