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Him or them?

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Question - (5 July 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 6 July 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Help. I'm in a real dilemma - I've been seeing a man I really care for - he's a bit of a jack the lad and can be unreliable at times, but I love and care for him all the same!

The thing is - my parents are very against the relationship (as he had a bad reputation) and now they are giving me an ultimatum of him or them!!

I do not live with my parents and kept the relationship quiet at first as I knew how they would react.

However, at the end of the day, it is my life. But equally - I do not want to make my parents ill as they are getting old and are clearly unhappy with the situation!

What should I do..?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011):

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Thanks for your replies.

My guy has been on the wrong side of the law before - so I understand my parents concerns - but I do genuinly feel happy with him - so I just don't know what to do for the best.

I don't like to see my folks worry about me!

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (5 July 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntThey need to let go of the apron strings, you are an adult and you should be making your own choices in life. You just need to be straight with them and tell them you are not a child any more. Explain to them that you are being careful and to try and give him a chance. Tell them you are happy and that you just want them to be happy for you as well.

You describe this guy as a bit of a jack the lad and you also say he has a bad reputation so are you sure he is the right man for you? I mean yeah sure you love and care for him, but are you sure you can trust him and that you are not going to be left hurt and with a broken heart? You really should take a close look at this relationship and ask yourself is it really worth the risk?

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