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writes:So I met this great guy at work.he's the nicest man I've ever met. I do enjoy sex, but to me there's definitely way more. He's 25 and I'm 26. If this helps when we worked together it was through a temp agency. So we don't see each other daily or anything like that. We have been on dates. We both are real honest and open and I love everything about him. So sweet, calm, perfect guy in my eyes, but it was my first night at his place last night. We watched a movie and ordered pizza and then went to bed. We started talking first then came the kissing. I noticed he was not getting hard right away then I thought well let's strip.. he was caressing me .. still nothing. Then I have him oral for awhile and he stayed like hard while doing that. Then as we were about to get into it he couldn't get it up. On the first time. He's young and he's not in medications. He's not a virgin. I don't know how to go about this. Because we woke up cuddling in the morning and neither of us wanted to get up for work. Lol. If any one could help me find some answers and how to go about it help!! I'm sure we will be hanging out at his place this weekend. Until then maybe I will let him take the lead?
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reader, waiting4realove27 +, writes (20 March 2015):
waiting4realove27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI talked to him about it today. Because I told him I w was not ready, so I opened up. I know he's physically attracted to me because of what he said today. It was anxiety and passed issues with his father. So I'm happy enough to give him time. He also said he's never been able to open up to anyone like me before. So I'm just going to enjoy our fun time until it comes. Because today I reminded him I just wanted Physical and nothing else... well he feels like his feelings are coming on fast and That's usually not him. So I'll be back if there's any other questions I need answering!! Thanks for the feedback!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2015): There is no erectile dysfunction if he got hard during oral-sex. He's nervous, and a lot of things could be rushing through his mind. Don't make a big deal of it.
Maybe he's having second-thoughts and has fears you'll get too attached after sex. My guess is, he's not ready for a commitment; and he thinks you'll expect to be his girlfriend if you let him penetrate you. He also could have gotten tired.
This only happened once?!! Don't freakout over things like that. It happens.
It is also possible that he's just not sexually-attracted to you. That doesn't make a guy gay, an asshat, or you unattractive. I know that's hard for some women to believe; but life isn't always cut and dry, or black and white. Women don't always orgasm.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (19 March 2015):
He's probably just nervous! That can cause performance anxiety. don't make a big deal out of it, don't let it worry you, just keep your sessions as relaxed as possible.
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