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writes:Dear Readers,I am unsure if this is a problem or not.There is this boy who i would call a bully and last year he bullied me quite bad but i never told anyone, well he has started making little remarks and calling me names occasionally but it gets to me, also when i was in a lesson on a sewing machine he kept pressing down on the peddle to mess my work up. When your in a class with him you feel you have to be queit and not get noticed. Well there is like a parents evening coming up and i'm not sure wether to tell my teacher or not, i won't be at that school next year so i'm unsure wether i should tell my teacher and unsure if it's even a problem.From a girl
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (16 March 2006):
 You need to tell someone. It's not fair that people can behave like this bully has and get away with it.
Whilst you are lucky to be moving away from this bully, imagine what distress and unhappiness he can cause to others.
Teachers and school counsellors are very aware of bullying these days and certainly, in Australia where I am from, and I'm sure in other countries, most schools have anti-bullying policies and procedures to help teachers deal with bullies and the people who have been bullied.
People who bully others often have many problems of their own (low self esteem, a bad home life, perhaps a learning difficulty that means they do this to get attention when they don't do well in school etc etc etc) so if you tell someone perhaps your school can help figure out why this boy is acting like he is and help him behave better.
Bullying is a sign of problem behaviour that if not looked at and acted on, it can occur throughout someones life, not just schools. School yard bullies can sometimes go on to bully workmates, neighbours, partners and children.
I believe telling on them actually can end up doing many, many people a favour in the long run.
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reader, martini  +, writes (16 March 2006):
 Yes, I suggest you tell your teacher/counsellor/administrator - preferrably the vice principle. This boy seems like he will remain to bully others, even after you leave. Often, kids hold back from telling on them out of pride and/or embarrassment - this I can tell you, is the first mistake of a victim. The bully may continue to harass and eventually cause an even greater disharmony for you and/or other students. Time to put him in his place, and report him.
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reader, Faerie_Queen +, writes (16 March 2006):
 A bully is a bully, whether it is mental or physical abuse. You are suffering because of something he is doing to you. It won't stop until you do something about it, and the teachers won't be able to help until you make them aware. You have to stand up and tell them what he is doing, or you could end up going through the same again at your next school. You sound like a nice girl, and no one deserves to be treated that way. He is the one with the problem, not you. Don't be scared, tell!
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