A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I just started dating this guy who is amazing. Unfortunately when we tried to have sex it doesnt work for two main reasons. It takes a while for him to fit inside me. He is really big and I am really tiny, so the combination of the two is bad. And when we finally get started going, he goes limp! We've only tried sex twice and its happened both times. I am not sure what to do and don't know why he is going limp when we start going at it. Any advice is appreciated!
View related questions:
limp Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Unless you have a medical problem or he's abnormally enormous, it's not really possible for the woman to physically be too small. I think what you're describing is too tight. When a woman becomes aroused her vagina can expand to nearly the size of a fist (or slightly larger in some cases). You need to have more foreplay so you can get thoroughly aroused before you even attempt penetration. It couldn't hurt to get close to orgasm each time so you know you're really and truly physically ready. A good lube would also be a great idea.
A
female
reader, weebooger +, writes (31 July 2011):
 indeed try foreplay the more excited you are sexually the easier it will be for him to get inside you. maybe try having him go down on you and use a couple fingers to losen you up in an enjoyable way. the reason he probably goes limp is all the work it takes to get in and that too probalby decreases your wetness which makes him think that you are not into it. If foreplay doesnt seem to help like the others said try some lube. if its only happened twice it will probably get easier after a few more times. just try to relax and that will help him slip inside you and he probably wont go limp.
...............................
A
female
reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 A woman's body is an amazing thing. You can fit a baby through a vagina remember, its adjustable to size. So there's no problem there. He will be going limp because things just aren't going smoothly. If it appears that you aren't aroused enough, its hard for him to stay aroused. Try lubrication, as suggested by Starmonster888. Things will move along much quicker and easier. You've only tried twice, so don't be giving up. Surprise him by finding the solution to the problem. Try being on top, that will make it easier also. You will work it out together, and have fun along they way.
...............................
A
male
reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Remedy for the too big+too tiny combo is moisture; the two of you explore forms of d foreplay that make you particularly wet. As for going limp, well, that could be anything.What ever the case, he needs to relax. Just take your time with that foreplay, get some lube if so wish and it should help.
...............................
|
