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writes:I have a weird question. I am in love and happy. This is not a problem so much as I'm not sure what to make of it. My bf tells me often how beautiful and wonderful I am which I love. He also often calls me "immaculate" and then stares at me adoringly. It is not the way I am dressed or the way I tidy up my room (which is usually in need of tidying). He has said it to me clothed and naked. What is your impression of what this might mean beyond just the words? I am a little afraid of falling off of that very high pedestal, but maybe I shouldn't look at it that way at all. Thanks. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): He is in love with you, and this is normal for a guy to tell you these things, as he obvisouly thinks you are very beautiful ! Don't question it, enjoy it! And if you feel the same, compliment him :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): He loves you, thinks your beautiful... it's normal for a guy in love to tell his girlfriend these sorts of things... If it's a new relationship, he's probably still in awe of how he managed to land a beautiful girl like you. Perhaps the intensity of the compliments will wear off over time.
In the mean time, enjoy it.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (9 October 2007):
 I think each time he says things like that, you should thank him graciously, but remind him that you are only human and there may be things you do that are not always going to be "perfect"...will he be shocked when you do something that disappoints him? If he sees you as "perfect" then he's not seeing you realistically and you are going to get tired of trying to live up to some sort image he holds of you. No one is perfect. You may be a perfect match for him. But you need to keep his feet on the ground and pull his head out of the clouds once in awhile, otherwise you're going to start feeling rebellious and sick of trying to fit into this mold, and when he sees that you're really not "perfect" afterall he will be deeply disappointed because his expectations were not realistic to begin with. It's flattering to hear things like this, but it sends bells and whistles off in my brain!
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reader, AskEve  + ♥, writes (9 October 2007):
 He obviously adores you and has a lot of respect for you. To him you are "perfection". Maybe not perfect in the sense of the word but nevertheless perfect for him. He views you as neat, clean and tidy in every sense of the word. To him you the epitomy of perfection. Enjoy the compliments and the attention and don't forget to reciprocate if you truly mean it.
Eve
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reader, Ozsong  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Sounds like he adores you, I put my girl on a pedestal, maybe too much, guys arent very good at knowing how much is too much or how nice is too nice... ask him to ease up if it makes you feel uncomfortable but make sure you let him know how much is enough..
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