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writes:My Man of 4 years has severe ED. We have only been able to have actual sexual intercourse twice..We've done other things to keep our sexual connection alive. Nothing has been happening at all in this area for a good 8 weeks and today I found out he is viewing porn. Not that big of a deal...hey, I find it kindof sexy myself...but then I found out that he has a profile on a sex chat/sexual hookup site. Again, he is impotent, so not really concerned about actual cheating..but really? IM RIGHT HERE ! To find out that not only have I been sticking by this man all this time despite the fact that we cannot even have sex, then to see him want to explore outside of the relationship? What is this about? Now Im wondering if his fettish (liking school girl outfits) is the only thing that would even turn him on, because I am certainly not that, THAT IS what is causing his ED..he has used the excuse that his ED is medication related and I believed it..but? why on earth would a man who is supposedly impotent want to this when he has a girl in the next room? Help me deciced how to approach him when he gets home from work...he already knows somethings up - when he called me I was crying and then I yelled that some "people" want to meet him, and he made it seem like, "oh, thats just a pop up coming on the screen, I dont know why I get those" yeah, right...with his profile and all...I seriously am about to kick him right out of my house, and my life..howcould he not be honest with me about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): Hi,
Are the women hes looking at and chatting with look a lot younger than they actually are?
If so id be very uneasy by this. I know some people have fetishes and thats ok but some just creep me out. One being men liking to get off with young virginal girls, even when its just fantasy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): Hi. If you have loved this man for years, shared your home with him and accepted that being with him means not having a full sex life. Then you are a patient and generous spirited woman. To find he is on a sex chat and hook up site must be devastating. Not least because he has a `So what?` attitude!
If there is no physical reason for his ED, his school uniform fetish might be a symptom. I`m sorry but i would be showing him the door. I dont know you but i am sure you deserve much better than this man is giving you.
If you do overcome his behaviour and keep trying with him it might be prudent to install a keylogger if he is using your pc.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 February 2012):
 My thought is he's desperately trying to find that"spark" again by looking on-line for that thing that ignites a man's libido. To me it's all good and harmless.It might be cheaper than the pills and safer too.
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