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writes:hello im with some body alot older than me.The problem is when we first got together we were so happy and he showed me so much love. Now 11months later all we seem to do is argue. He has an ex partner he still see's this use to up set me but it seem's now i've got use to it he's stoped showing me love. Some times i wonder if i should be insecure again. Any advice how to be close again? PLEASE HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Tell your partner how you feel, there may be a simple explaination to why he is not showing as much affectiion or he may want a break from being as close, sometimes when people are together for a long time they feel trapped, his ex could just be a way out or a person to talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Agree with lostandalone. He seems to have alot of unresolved feelings for his ex, and is in a state of confusion and frustration which causes more arguements, due to the tension he is feeling. The honest truth is I think he's caught between the two of you and has feelings for you and his ex, he just doesnt know what to do, as he doesnt want to hurt either one of you. The sad fact is that until you confront him to face his confusion, the likelyhood is that things wont get better.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (13 June 2006):
 You might have to face a devastating fact that you might be a rebound girl. He still has feelings for his ex and now that he spends time with her he realizes his feelings for her are more than what he thought. Now he is caught because he cares about you very much and loves her too. He is very frustrated in his dilema and therefore you argue more frequently. You have to make him understand how you feel and tell him that you won't play second fiddle to anyone and deserve to be told the truth. Give him a chance to explain and listen to him. Right now he is very confussed and more emotional than any man should be. When you love someone you love them enough to let them go. Can he do that and a better question is Can You? I hope you find something useful in my opinion and thats all that it is. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): Can I ask how big is the age gap and does he have children with his ex?
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