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writes:Should I stay or should I leave?My boyfriend and I have been together for close to 15 months now. Ou physical intimacy has been non-existent for the last 3-4 months. But we still have a great time when we are together. There is no tension, whenever I try to initiate it, he pulls away and says that he is not in the mood and when probed further he says it's because he is not sure about this relationship and he is holding back. The first year of our relationship took a big hit as I had major issues at work which is really beyond anyone's imagination, but I think it took alot out of relationship. He was always supportive but I think he was tired from trying to look after me too. I was going through so much myself, I forgot to stop to think how much it was affecting him too. But I have asked him on several occasions if he wants to see someone else or that we should just take a break. Each time he has said that he doesn't want to. I don't really know what to do. We do love each other very much and have a great time together. But surely one cannot carry on like this? right now, I'm taking the ' not doing anything' for a bit. As I have been trying to fix it the last few months - only to cause more grief. So I thought I'd take a break from trying to fix it, enjoy the moments we have together and hope time will show me a different perspective. Welcome thoughts. Thanks so much!
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reader, speedcat +, writes (20 January 2008):
could be soooo many reasons for this!! is he on any new meds?? high blood pressure?? maybe hes deppressed??? If he was not into you any more than he would not be going out with you having fun, there seems to be a bigger problem good luck.
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 January 2008):
 I agree with the other poster, and I'd also like to add not being so stale in the approach to sex. Sometimes what is too familier becomes dull. Talk to him about maybe trying some new things, different places and styles. Spice it up a bit. Let him know you have needs too, but you want to talk about it so you'll both be satisfied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): maybe hes got something on his mind? you need to sit him down and carefully bring up the subject without sounding like you nagging him. alot of couples go through simular things, you just need to find out whats putting him off. when you do find out, you then need to figure a way to get back your sex life. maybe trying some new things. heat it up a little. maybe once you've both sorted out your other personal problems ect and are happier, the sex will start happing again. if you both dealing with other issues at the moment then sex might be the last thing on his mind. it dosent mean he's gone off you.
good luck x
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