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writes: I'm 27 years old and have been in a relationship for a 2 years with a man I love. The problem is he just does not want sex. I feel unloved and neglected by him. I have researched the problem and tried to encourage him to see a counsellor but he just doesn't. I know he is not gay or seeing anyone else - any ideas?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005): maybe he's asexual or is having other problems. being asexual is natural, and it's not abnormal. talk to him about it. be clear about what you want, and encourage (but don't force) him to explain why he won't have sex with you.if sex is important to you, and you cant reach a compromise, and you can't get him to see a counselor about it, maybe you should move on.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (3 November 2005):
 Have you considered that he might be having erectile problems? He might not be able to get hard enough for sex and is embarrassed to admit it.
ED affects a large swathe of the male population from time to time, but I sometimes think that every man who was ever affected thinks he's the only one.
If you google "erectile dysfunction information" you can read up on it and see if the description fits with what you know about your own situation.
Just a thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2005): You're 27...so
I assume he's around the same age.
His problem with sex my be complex and simple within the same breath.
Inadequecies about himself and his anatomy may be present.
Surrounded by images of porno on the net; seeing pornstars in action, he may confuse the 'well-hung masters of the universe' as normal in genital size, and when it compares to himself, ...he doesn't add-up (to himself) since he doesn't stare at other guys.....
but besides this, i recommend either..being eager about starting it slow ...like saying.."i just want to see itand touch it!"..act inexperienced even if you're not..it'll help the guy more.
..and it will 'grow' from there..
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reader, xPurex +, writes (2 November 2005):
Sometimes men feel uncomfortable with their bodies. If he's gone through a recent weight gain then it could be the problem. Or it could be that he has been through something difficult that could have attacked his ego or maybe something dear to him.
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