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writes:ok, so me and my ex are friends, and he started dating my friend well they had sex and she preganant. and may i add this is on purpose they want a baby (he tryed to have a baby with me i said no) so yeah.well what i am saying is hes 16, she like 14.its not right!they are making plans for this and this. and it hurts me because he was my first love, and she was my best friend. (they parents dont know yet)so what should i do?i dont wanna cause no trouble... so i should just leave them alone and let them learn on there own?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmost of you guys are right! they are stupid.
i've made my mind up...
I'm leave them to it and let them learn. They will realize its a mistake when they have no money or anything.
i will be there friend and support them.
i really can't do anything else.
so thanks for yalls advice.
much love !
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reader, mr.dork88 +, writes (31 July 2009):
 you should totaly tell there parents or tell someone that will tell there parents like a teacher or an older brother or sister, they are way to young to make a decision like that and it is very dangerous for both the mother and the child to have a baby at that age. you should step up cuz if you dont your going to feel bad when there lifes are ruined. and 14 is way to young to be having sex and what is a high schooler doing dating a middle schooler sounds like someone is a lil to lame to get someone at his own school.
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reader, k_c100  + ♥, writes (31 July 2009):
 Well first of all well done for having the sense to say no to your ex when he said he wanted a baby! It is nice to see a teenager on here for once who isnt stupid enough to get pregnant!
I dont think much of your so called best friend; is she really is your friend then she would never have got together with your ex, thats not what friends do! So I guess you just need to realise that she isnt a good friend to you and you dont need someone like her in your life.
They are both so stupid to be having a baby - they have no idea about responsibility or being a parent because they are still kids themselves! But if she is pregnant now then there is not a lot anyone can do; the damage is done! I think you should leave them to it, at least they are both as stupid as each other! I'm sure when they do tell their parents they are going to get in enough trouble so there is no point in you getting involved in the situation.
First love is hard to get over but you will find another guy one day who you will love even more than your ex, and you will see that while first love feels amazing, the love you have with your future boyfriend/s will be on a whole other level.
You clearly have your head screwed on right seen as you realise these two are just too young to have a baby, so you will go on to have a wonderful life full of adventure, fun and you will achieve all your ambitions. Whereas these two will be tied down for the next 18 years to their child and wont get to experience life the way you will. Feel proud of yourself that you havent ended up like your friend and hold your head high. Dont get involved in their mess - this is their issue and they will soon see what a mistake they have made. But they need to learn that for themselves, they would only think you are bitter/jealous if you say anything. So take the high road and leave them to it!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, night gurl +, writes (31 July 2009):
 u should let them learn themselves. her mom will tell her wat to do with the baby you can also learn threw this mistake too.
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reader, phoebemarie +, writes (31 July 2009):
you should go to your friend and explain to her how you think it's wrong. if she doesn't listen to you and just gets mad over it, then she's not worth worrying about. talk to your ex. make sure that now that he is an expecting father that he stays for that child. he is probably doing for sex and to get to you. because you said no to a sexual offer, he thinks that he can get to you through your best friend. when you talk to your best friend, maybe she is scared to tell her parents. you should try to be there for her when she does. and if she is not ready to have a child. maybe she can look for people who are willing to adopt that child. she is 14. she should not have to end up going to school and coming home to care for a child. she will not have a social life. my mother had me when she was 16. she lost all of her friends because she did not have time to go to the movies or the mall or just to hang out. a baby is also expensive. your friend might not be able to go to college or get the things she want with a baby around. she will need to buy diapers instead of new cute purses or shoes that she doesn't need. if she is listening, she might understand. if i couldn't help. i am sorry. but it's worth a try.
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