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anonymous
writes:everything was fine on monday, my boyfriend and i were talking and we were hugging and being friendly and kissing and stuff. then...i didn't let him touch me in a certain place. i assume he got mad, since he didn't say bye to me that day and walked off. for the next two days, he completely ignored me. i walk in, he doesn't care...he doesn't even hug me. i assumed he was stressed over ap tests, so i gave him a break. wednesday comes, and he's doing the same, acting like im not his girlfriend without saying anything and flirting with others. i send him a text message saying "is everything alright?" he didnt wanna talk to me. today, he didnt say ANYTHING to me..and still treated me like a nobody. giving me one glance and a hug. i got really upset...but im really shy so i didnt talk to him. so my friend saw, and decided to ask him why he's acting like this. when she did, he replied "I don't know. I'm not feeling it [our relationship] anymore...i think im gonna break up" I'm in breakdown mode right now. I don't know what to do. He's messed up many times, so I know breaking up would be an option. I just don't know how to do it and whether or not this is a reason to do it. should i do it nicely? should i do it at all? what would you do? please help....i would appreciate ANY advice! he's my age :(
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reader, oldfool  + ♥, writes (9 May 2008):
 He sounds young and immature. This is childish behaviour. He'll grow up in time, but at the moment you're bearing the brunt of his childishness. You're pretty young; you can find something better out there. No need to stick with this guy if he's going to mess with your mind like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): he's trying to manipulate you to have sex. if you're not ready then be honest to him and yourself. he's not the only man out there. it might be true that men want sex, but thats a generalisation. love urself. let this one go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): you should break up with him and try it at a place where no one is or write on a piece of paper and give it to him and walk away until he asks "why" then tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): It looks to me like he's laying on the guilt, basically he saying if you don't put out, this is over.
I would say yes break up with him. None of that confusing sugar-coated fluff that makes no sense to anyone. I am not saying to be mean, I am saying to be honest and strait-forward when you do it. Its best to do it in person, no one likes it over the phone, in a text message etc.
We obviously want different things in this relationship. I am not ready to be sexually active at this time and if you respected me you wouldn't pressure me into it. I don't appreciate you putting me on a guilt trip and avoiding me, I deserve to be treated better than that, I am worth waiting for and if you can't see that its your loss.
Well in your own words and be clear its over most likely if he just wants sex once you say you are not ready to be sexually active and you won't be pressured into it, he'll try and bail anyway.
He may say some crap to you like you'll never find a man, cause all guys want sex, you're a prude or something. But that's not true, there are plenty of great guys out there he's just not one of them.
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