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writes:I know a married man who is interested in me. I am an Asian girl and have known this guy for a few years. We get on well and it is only recently that we have been in touch via text messages, occasional calls and meeting up for brief chats whenever possible. I am 24 and he is roughly in his 40s. I thoroughly enjoy our conversations and company but it niggles me as I know that it is wrong to hang out with a married man. It is morally incorrect, and unfair on his wife. Lately, he has been inviting me out for dinner and wanting to see me more often now that we live close together. I really want to be friends with him and keep him in my life but don't like the guilty feeling from it all. Also, I am scared to turn him down as I know I'll miss being in touch with him and worried he'll get nasty with me. Please help... thanks!!!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 You are standing on dangerous grounds. You already knew that he is interested in you . This makes it even more dangerous.
Affairs starts from innocuous meetings and dinners and they slowly graduate to the bedroom.
One thing will lead to another and soon you cannot extricate from the tangled web of deceptions.
Cut off ties or keep friendship to the barest minimum.
He is taken and you would be called a family breaker if you persist in doing what you are doing.
You may think it is normal but I assure you his wife will certainly have a different perception of you when she learns about it.
Learn to say no to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): He is married let him go. You already feel bad with just texting him how bad do you think if things moved on?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 February 2010):
You're walking into a big mess. If his wife finds out, she'll assume you're the bad person trying to take him away and blame you. Your reputation will be badly damaged and you will be the one blamed for everything, whether you do anything with him or not. He is a married man. Leave him alone or you'll be the one who looks bad, even if you're not (which I know you aren't). I think he's just after using you more than anything.
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