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writes:I'm in love with a married man, he has a one year old son. He loves me too and he told me so. I don't want to break another woman's home, but, i really love him, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): I'm on the same boat as you are.. I am in love with a married man.. but we already broke up.. one thing that i realized from this.. if a person really really loves you, he'll clean his mess first before pursuing you.. coz you deserve it.. and you dont deserve anything/anyone else.. the love that you feel, just keep it inside you.. if it's possible.. find the way to let go of that feeling.. i know it's hard.. but you owe it to yourself anyway.. dont hurt yourself anymore..the hardest thing that you can do is to continue to love someone who can't be yours.. that's one thing i know..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): look . i know you love this person but you just have to let go. i mean i absolutly love this boy but he is married to one of my close friends , and i can't love him i just have to pull.. anyway. and let him live his life xx good luckk
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): yeah i am in the same boat but he does have a kid and him and his wife have been not together for almost 3 months or so he asked me out and i said yes and he told me he loved me so much but he is married and i am afraid that he might not ever get divorce. i really need help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): same situation except without the child and he left her for me.sorry hun but you'll just have to do what you feel is right. no one can tell you what to do.just think of all the conciquences and if it really is all worth it.
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reader, AskEve  + ♥, writes (2 February 2007):
 What do you do? YOU GET OVER HIM AND MOVE ON to someone who IS available. Put yourself in his wife's place. How would YOU feel if you were married and had a small child and you heard someone else wanted your husband, the man you loved and had a child with to leave you and be with this other woman instead...? Seriously... think about it! Not very nice thought is it? Then don't do to others what you'd hate done to yourself. There are plenty more fish in the sea so GO FISHING! ;o)
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2007): Marry a man who f***** around on his wife and Guess what You get? A man who f**** around on his wife (Oh no, it will be different with me - he loves me...). This is a huge, huge character flaw in this man - what do you think of other people who cheat? I'm quite sure you wouldn't be asking if you Really thought that this is Okay. You'll always wonder if he's cheating on you, you'll always have to defend your own responsibility in the split and you'll always be the "other women" so wake up and get the heck out now before it's too late. I have seen this happen so many times, families get ruined, children lose a lifetime of having both parents, children hating parents, some men and women ruin their future careers and permanently damage relationships with their extended families because of the turmoil that it causes. It is not a win/win situation and you will spend a lifetime of blended families (the first family doesn't dissappear - they will always be around to share him with...) and you will be faced with the people who you wronged for the rest of your lives together (and they have long memories). Marriage and family are hard work without this big strike against you from the get-go. If you met this flawed individual in the workplace, it's time to switch jobs. Life is too short, you deserve more so look at him and the situation with both eyes Wide open. I have been lucky enough to have been with a man who thinks that the most important job that he has done is raising his family and loving his wife. It's not a fairy tale, all marriages have ups and downs, but if you run away during the bad times, when do you stop running? He described one split that he witnessed (father left family he had relocated from overseas, one child sick with cancer, for pregnant mistress) as "An Entire Relationship Built on Human Weakness". I know that he meant his vows the first time - how on earth will you ever be sure there is no escape clause when it comes to your relationship with him?
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (1 February 2007):
 The answer is so obvious, I wont insult your intelligence by telling you what that is!:-P
Its the right thing to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2007): sorry hun, but you may love him but im willing to bet he doesnt you. your his play thing, hes a married man and cheating his wife. you get with him he'll do the same to you.
your young, get out and enjoy life. meet men your own age (not ones with partners) theres plenty of men with morals so dont chose one with none
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reader, cd206 +, writes (1 February 2007):
 Forget him. He's married. His wife and son deserve to have him in their lives and being faithful towards them. You say you don't want to wreck another woman's home so don't.
CD
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