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writes:ive been seeing this guy for almost 2 months, im 21- he is my first relationship (but we're not exclusive/official etc)im going to talk to him about going slow with the physical stuff as im not ready to go below the belt, and feel like he may be expecting it soon (he got my bra/top off last time)and dont want to lead him on- im a virgin and am waiting for love... but i dont know if i want to tell him that right now? should i? Reply to this Question
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reader, rubyrose +, writes (21 November 2010):
rubyrose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i wont be sleeping with him for a long time, i just dont know whether or not i should tell him im a virgin now- or whether i should just tell him i'd like to slow it down a bit, as i have some trust issues with guys and im also shy....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): I lost my virginity to my ex of a year when I was 20. I was with him for 6 months before it happened because I wasn't sure if he was the right one for me. I wish I followed my instincts.
He was pushy too wayyy too soon and that is why I held off for sooo long. Just be sure you are ready, losing your virginity is a big thing and if you think you shouldn't and that your not ready, tell him! If he doesn't understand then you will know hes not the right one.
When I told my ex I wasn't ready he wasn't happy and I still did it and stayed with him, wish I hadn't lol
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Its a relationship but its not exclusive?? Its totally up to you how you lose your virginity, but I personally think that if you aren't in love with him that you should at least be exclusive.
At the end of the day, if your first time isn't "special" to you, then you should at least do all you can to make sure that you're not going to regret it later... You have no idea where he's been sticking his dipstick and what you can catch from him or whether he's just going to take your virginity and run...
I lost my virginity at 21 and while it wasn't with the girl of my dreams as I just kinda wanted to get it over with and stop feeling like a freak- at least we were exclusive and I didn't regret it.
Best of luck to ya :)
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