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He's insecure about relationships in general, and seems distant now.

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Question - (9 February 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2010)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

okay, long story short: met this guy a month ago, we've talked every day since weve met and hung out as well. he has told me many times he has feelings for me, i was reluctant to develope feelings at first. this weekend he had a party, i had a lot of fun with him and all his friends.

One thing lead to another and i ended up staying the night. it was sweet and nice, and he seemed to feel the same way. the next day he told me his brother and his gf of 5 years broke up and that this kind of thing makes him want to stay single, and that he doesnt know what he wants any more.

This really bummed me out, i phoned him later that night we had a good convo, he talked to me about how hard it is to deal with his brother but he seemed like he was still interested. Didnt talk to me all day yesterday till the evening. and hes talked to me a lot today. he seems to be acting different, do you guys think its because he hooked up and he doesnt care about me any more? or he is just going through a rough time dealing with his brothers break up?

ps. i dont normally sleep with guys so soon, but i really like him. he was different

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2010):

Miamine agony auntHe aint met no one else, he aint had time. He's been truthfull, he like you, but he's not interested in a committed relationship.

I suggest you save yourself time and heartbreak. Tell him you like him lots, you like being around him. Tell him what you told us, that you don't usually sleep with guys so soon, but he was different. Ask him if there's a chance if you and him could build the friendship into something more meaningful. He'll tell you what he thinks, the answer will either be yes or no. If no, then keep him as friend, wishing for more will only hurt you. If yes, well, continue as you are, getting to know each other and enjoy each other's company.

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