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writes:I have liked this one guy forever and a few months ago he started going out with my best friend even though he liked and still likes me. He has been calling me alot lately and we are talking about an hour everyday. It has become very obvious that he likes me and I'm starting to really fall for him. Only problem is he is still going out with my best friend and she is in love with him. Any ideas on what to do? And don't say stop talking to ohim because I've tried and it just dosent end up working.
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reader, vanessalina_456 +, writes (10 October 2010):
omg that weird my thing is very close just more stuff ok i went out with this guy like 5 times 2 yrs ago and then 6 times 1 yr ago and then again this yr i kno i date him to much but im in love with him and my best friend knos that to but she ask him out yea she ask him out so i didnt get mad i thought he was going to say no but instead he said yessss!!!!!i got really mad but i was still her friend but he calls me every night saying baby i luv u can we go out and i say i luv u too but break up with my friend and he says ok but he never does and not trying to be mean but i prettier than her and homecoming is so close and i want him to break up with her so i can go out with him so i can ask him out for homecoming but even if he does shell just txt him and say wanna go out and hell say yes but i really love him and i kno he luvs me he even walks me home everyday and kisses me si i wanna kno what to do please message me if u knmo a answer
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): ino how u feel but mines a bit diftrent. i went out with this boy bt i dont no why i did becuse i dont fsncy him and i dont no if he fancys me either but were such good friends.But i like one of his friends and i want to be more than friends and so does he.But his friend herd that i went out with him and wont talk to me or his friend that i went out with.And im startn to regret going out with my is boy now. how am i going to get him to talk to me again?:(
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reader, orla123  +, writes (28 November 2009):
ino how u feel but mines a bit diftrent. i went out with this boy bt i dont no why i did becuse i dont fsncy him and i dont no if he fancys me either but were such good friends.But i like one of his friends and i want to be more than friends and so does he.But his friend herd that i went out with him and wont talk to me or his friend that i went out with.And im startn to regret going out with my is boy now. how am i going to get him to talk to me again?:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): Maybe he is confused and doesn't know how perfect you 2 r together. Maybe he thinks he likes her more but one it will hit him that your the one. The same thing is happening to me. A lot of my friends are telling me to ask him to break up with her for me 'cus they think im better 4 him than her, and i make him happy. Do wat your heart wants but dnt make bad decisions
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reader, Basicallybrookee +, writes (31 August 2009):
The same thing is kind of happening to me, I like three guys, but my three main best friends are going out with themm! But like, the one I like the most, him and my friend went out twice! And she knew I liked himm. :(
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reader, runawayitscory1 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 OMGG!! the sammmmmmeee thing is happening to me! except minee is worssee.. ok well first of all ive known this guy forevor!! weve been best friends for about 5 years now. and back then he really liked me and wanted to go out with me but i told him no. cuz i didint like him at the timee.. so then i meet one of his best friends and i really like him and he liked me so i went out with his friend.. and he went out with my best friend. at first i was totally cool with it cuz i didint have any feelings for him.. but as time past we got closer as friends and him and my friend got closer as bf and gf.. but he would always call me and tell me he loves me when he was going out with her..but anywayss so after a while they broke upp.. and he was single and i was singlee.. we kinda became almost fuck buddiess and i started falling for him more and moree.. then after a whille he goes out with another one of my best friendss and then anotherr. and now hes going out with one more of themm... and i mean they all knew i REALLY like him so it kinda hurt me that they went out with himm u kno? but through all these relations he would always call me.and we have had sex ALOT. even when im with them and hes making out with them he would look at me.. and sometimes even try touch me.. even at times he'll look at me for the longest time just smilingg.. but why is he going out with all my best frienddss.. wat is he trying to doo?!! i kno its not to make me jealous cuz he knows if he wanted to go out with me he could.. and honestly not to sound cocky im so much prettier then all my friends hes gone out with.. and so much more outgoing.. and he even tells me that.. but then why if he could have me.. why would he go out with my frienddss. idk it really hurts me. and i cry about it almost every night now. hes like taking over me. now all i do is think about him.. and i dont know what to do.. ive tried to stop talking to him but then he gets soo sweett and sings me songs and says hes sorryy..but if he doesnt like me why does he care so much? someone PLEASEEEE help me.. i kno this was long. but im dying here.. wat do i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): OMGG this is exactly the same problem with me and I dont no what to do because he is dating my best friend and calls me he also dated another friend though i promosed i wouldnt like him because its her ex. He calls me about every night and his girlfriend dosnt bother much. I am not going to cheat because i love my friends and wouldnt do that but I wouldnt like my boyfriend if I had one to do call other girls. So yeah I thoguht i liked him but i dont no anymore I enjoy talking to him a lot. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): ^^^^^
after waiting it out, maybe she will fall out of love with him (it may take time, but it probably wont last THAT long...) and maybe after a while, ask ur friend if its okay that u give him a shot,
Its worth it to give up a boy that u love (maybe not for That much longer) than for a friendship thats may last forever.
Think of it this way, wud ur best friend do the same for you? ( I kno mine would)
So heres the thing, we both will just try to wait it out. and see wat happens... only time will tell.
=) I hope this helped.. because this definetly is helping me by writing this.
xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): this is kind of happening to me...
i like this guy, he's really down to earth and has a great sense of humour, and until this year i started really liking him, even tho ive known him for forever (we just hated eachother the other years, but now we're really great friends)
anyway, he's been going out with my best friend for more than a year(which is ALOT for my school, since ppl dont go out for like more than a month) and they're in love! The only thing is that he's been flirting with me alot and we get along GREAT (we have similar personalities) and my best friends sees it in front of her , she just thinks wer just really close friends (only to me its more than that) ive tried not talkin to him, but he just keeps talking to me. It doesnt work or help to stop talking to him, we're great friends, it wud be wierd to just stop talking to a regular girlfriend wouldnt it? well its basiaclly the same thing.
Since we're in similar situations, best friends come first, because they last longer, and ther wayyyyyyy more valuable than a a guy that you love. i mean think about it, (not to make u feel guilty, becus its the same thing with me also) don't you love your best friend? only not in THAT way? well if one love lasts longer than the other, and one is way more likely to last longer than the other, than its better to take the 'risk' in making sure that your best friend is happy.
As hard as it is, you just need you wait it out.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Friends always come first in my rule book.
I think you need to stop answering the calls and stay away from this guy. Nothing good can come out of this.
If you're a best friend to her you will do what's right and tell him to stop calling you or you will tell you mate coz it's bang out of order from him and I think you should look inside yourself and ask "My best mate - who'll be there for me whatever I do, or a taken man?"
I know what answer I would pick.
I know it's probably not the answer you wanna hear, but you have to do this for the sake of your friendship. You don't want to split up over a man do you????
I know you say "I can't stop talkin to him" but I think if you are that much of a best mate you will realise that this is the only way. If you carry on, what does that say about your best mate's trust in you? What does it say about your friendship? If it was the other way round, how would you take it?
I'm sorry hun, but I think this is the only way. If he'll ring you all the time when he's with someone, if you get with him what's to say he won't do the same to you?
Take care.xxx
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reader, penta +, writes (31 July 2007):
 How would you feel if you were the one he was dating and your friend was the one who started going after him? Not very nice, is it.
If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you. Do NOT date him until he's clear of your friend, or you will really regret it.
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