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writes:I have liked this one guy forever and a few months ago he started going out with my best friend even though he liked and still likes me. He has been calling me alot lately and we are talking about an hour everyday. It has become very obvious that he likes me and I'm starting to really fall for him. Only problem is he is still going out with my best friend and she is in love with him. Any ideas on what to do? And don't say stop talking to ohim because I've tried and it just dosent end up working.
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reader, runawayitscory1 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 OMGG!! the sammmmmmeee thing is happening to me! except minee is worssee.. ok well first of all ive known this guy forevor!! weve been best friends for about 5 years now. and back then he really liked me and wanted to go out with me but i told him no. cuz i didint like him at the timee.. so then i meet one of his best friends and i really like him and he liked me so i went out with his friend.. and he went out with my best friend. at first i was totally cool with it cuz i didint have any feelings for him.. but as time past we got closer as friends and him and my friend got closer as bf and gf.. but he would always call me and tell me he loves me when he was going out with her..but anywayss so after a while they broke upp.. and he was single and i was singlee.. we kinda became almost fuck buddiess and i started falling for him more and moree.. then after a whille he goes out with another one of my best friendss and then anotherr. and now hes going out with one more of themm... and i mean they all knew i REALLY like him so it kinda hurt me that they went out with himm u kno? but through all these relations he would always call me.and we have had sex ALOT. even when im with them and hes making out with them he would look at me.. and sometimes even try touch me.. even at times he'll look at me for the longest time just smilingg.. but why is he going out with all my best frienddss.. wat is he trying to doo?!! i kno its not to make me jealous cuz he knows if he wanted to go out with me he could.. and honestly not to sound cocky im so much prettier then all my friends hes gone out with.. and so much more outgoing.. and he even tells me that.. but then why if he could have me.. why would he go out with my frienddss. idk it really hurts me. and i cry about it almost every night now. hes like taking over me. now all i do is think about him.. and i dont know what to do.. ive tried to stop talking to him but then he gets soo sweett and sings me songs and says hes sorryy..but if he doesnt like me why does he care so much? someone PLEASEEEE help me.. i kno this was long. but im dying here.. wat do i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): OMGG this is exactly the same problem with me and I dont no what to do because he is dating my best friend and calls me he also dated another friend though i promosed i wouldnt like him because its her ex. He calls me about every night and his girlfriend dosnt bother much. I am not going to cheat because i love my friends and wouldnt do that but I wouldnt like my boyfriend if I had one to do call other girls. So yeah I thoguht i liked him but i dont no anymore I enjoy talking to him a lot. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): ^^^^^
after waiting it out, maybe she will fall out of love with him (it may take time, but it probably wont last THAT long...) and maybe after a while, ask ur friend if its okay that u give him a shot,
Its worth it to give up a boy that u love (maybe not for That much longer) than for a friendship thats may last forever.
Think of it this way, wud ur best friend do the same for you? ( I kno mine would)
So heres the thing, we both will just try to wait it out. and see wat happens... only time will tell.
=) I hope this helped.. because this definetly is helping me by writing this.
xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): this is kind of happening to me...
i like this guy, he's really down to earth and has a great sense of humour, and until this year i started really liking him, even tho ive known him for forever (we just hated eachother the other years, but now we're really great friends)
anyway, he's been going out with my best friend for more than a year(which is ALOT for my school, since ppl dont go out for like more than a month) and they're in love! The only thing is that he's been flirting with me alot and we get along GREAT (we have similar personalities) and my best friends sees it in front of her , she just thinks wer just really close friends (only to me its more than that) ive tried not talkin to him, but he just keeps talking to me. It doesnt work or help to stop talking to him, we're great friends, it wud be wierd to just stop talking to a regular girlfriend wouldnt it? well its basiaclly the same thing.
Since we're in similar situations, best friends come first, because they last longer, and ther wayyyyyyy more valuable than a a guy that you love. i mean think about it, (not to make u feel guilty, becus its the same thing with me also) don't you love your best friend? only not in THAT way? well if one love lasts longer than the other, and one is way more likely to last longer than the other, than its better to take the 'risk' in making sure that your best friend is happy.
As hard as it is, you just need you wait it out.
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reader, bubbloo24  + ♥, writes (31 July 2007):
 Friends always come first in my rule book.
I think you need to stop answering the calls and stay away from this guy. Nothing good can come out of this.
If you're a best friend to her you will do what's right and tell him to stop calling you or you will tell you mate coz it's bang out of order from him and I think you should look inside yourself and ask "My best mate - who'll be there for me whatever I do, or a taken man?"
I know what answer I would pick.
I know it's probably not the answer you wanna hear, but you have to do this for the sake of your friendship. You don't want to split up over a man do you????
I know you say "I can't stop talkin to him" but I think if you are that much of a best mate you will realise that this is the only way. If you carry on, what does that say about your best mate's trust in you? What does it say about your friendship? If it was the other way round, how would you take it?
I'm sorry hun, but I think this is the only way. If he'll ring you all the time when he's with someone, if you get with him what's to say he won't do the same to you?
Take care.xxx
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reader, penta +, writes (31 July 2007):
 How would you feel if you were the one he was dating and your friend was the one who started going after him? Not very nice, is it.
If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you. Do NOT date him until he's clear of your friend, or you will really regret it.
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