New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244945 questions, 1084256 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

He's getting out of the army and I'm not sure I can handle civilian life!

Tagged as: Big Questions, Marriage problems, Troubled relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (8 July 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 29 September 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

ive been married for 4 years to a soilder. we have been together for 7 yrs altogether and i love him very very much. im 23 and hes 24. my problem is that he is getting out of the military and im not so sure how i feel about this. ive been military my whole life and i dont know nothing esle and i mean i married him cause i love him. but a big part of it was that he was military too cause i always said i wanted to be with a solider and it seemd like all my dreams were coming true. except now he wants out and has no idea what he wants to do im so afriad with the economy that he will fail and we wont be able to keep up our good lifestyle and i dont know if i can handle that!! ive tired to get him to stay in but he really doesnt i dont know i guess my question is how do i get pass this and try to look forward to something i think is a total MISTAKE!!!!i dont know if i can be happy stayin in one place for a long time or not being involved in military life!!! he has only known military for 5 years me on the other hand was born into even my grandfather was military!!!i just dont know if i really want a civilian lifestyle plllzz help me im soo confused and scared!!

View related questions: military

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010):

if you truly love your husband you should try to support his decision. If he wants out then he must not be happy and why would you want him to do something he dosen want to and may resent you later in life if he stays in. I am in a similar sistuation. However, I'm not as found of military life but did love the income that supported a stable nice lifestyle. He got out and is now using the gi bill. I wont lie it's a big change and money is tight but he is very happy.

But, if life style is more important to you than

your husbands happyness maybe you should

take a look at your marriage. Marriage is for better or for worse. I think you should talk to

your husband and tell him your feelings & fears & see what he says. If he has a plan on what he wants to do when he's out & has a plan to support his family, you should consider it. Good luck and best wishes.

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2010):

well if you love the military and its lifestyle so much, why don't you sign up???? That way you truely get to experience what you love rather than living through someone who obviously doesn't want to be there. Just a thought x

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "He's getting out of the army and I'm not sure I can handle civilian life!"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312589000022854!