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writes:Recently, I have litterly fell in love with the man of my dreams, he's everything I've ever wanted in a man...except the size of his penis!We have only slept together once, and I do mean sleep! The size of his penis hard is maybe an inch and a half long and a half inch wide, plus uncircumsized so you have to move all that skin to even get to the penis. There is no way penetration is going to happen. I just don't know what to do at this point. He is good with his fingers but never had oral sex with me, which I did do to him. I'm thinking he's under-developed and is there medicine and doctors for this? And how can I even bring up the subject? I've even thought of asking him to wear a strap-on devise, but how can I ask that! Any tips and advise would be appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): You say you love him and he satisfies you. THat is all you really NEED. If you can honestly say that's all you'll ever need, I'd say you have a good thing. But you start off by saying he's everything you ever wanted except for his penis....so that says you WANT more. This is about NEEDS vs. WANTS. Some need penetrative sex. Some just want it. Some dont need OR want it. THe question is, what will make you HAPPY? If you can get what you need with him, and get what you want with bigger toys, I'd say you have a good match. If you have even the slightest inkling that you will need more down the road, you need to be honest with yourself and admit it wont make you happy. Convincing yourself it is OK just because you feel sorry for him isn't good enough. He already knows it is a problem. I hope it works out for you, but put your needs first. You will be doing him the best favor and being the best partner possible for him by being honest. It may be fortunate you are a bit more mature and probably don't have quite the active drive you had when younger...you also probably have more compassion, and can look at love over sex. But the two do go together, so I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the great answers! I think I should be more open and discuss this with him. After the last time, he just asked if I could still love a man like him. Yes, I do love him and felt so bad for him that he even had to ask that. He did satisfy me. Should I bring up his past relationships or just stick to ours? Should I be the one to get the toys or let him bring them into our relationship? I'm so confused and anything like this has never happened in my whole life!
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reader, xtatic_kid  +, writes (1 October 2010):
there are so many other ways you both can experience pleasure, dildos are a good start
your boyfriend must know that he is not that well endowed. several women must have tld him this.
during sex, just direct him a little bit more. use short, pharses, like keep going, or a a bit higher etc and teach him how he can please you.
don;t neglect his needs either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): That’s unfortunate. I think you need to ask him what turns him on and satisfy him first. Then from there he should get the idea and you two can talk about it more intimately. You’re both sexual creatures but I hope the small penis doesn’t discourage your love for him.
He has to live with what MANY of us guys ALL fear.
But be brave and do talk about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): OMG! I think he has what they call an infantile penis. Maybe you can have him use a dildo on you while he uses his fingers and hopefully he will also do oral to pleasure you. If he is "everything" that you are looking for in a man except for penis size, then just pretend he lost his penis in an accident, and come up with alternative ways to have sex.
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Sounds like micropenis. There isn't really any practical treatment unfortunately.
It really really sucks.
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