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anonymous
writes:Dear cupid, I have had a good friend for almost 14 years and we have dated off and on until the last seven years. we went our separate ways and he got married and had a family with someone else and so did I. So now i am separated getting divorced. he is divorced but still lives in the same house with his ex wife because of his kids being small. So i am living on my own with my kids. We have recently started back talking on a regular basis for about 2 years now, just off and on nothing other than chatting on the phone. My question is - he has started staying with his mother a lot at night and wants me to start letting him come over and spend the night with me. I really don't feel that is completely right for me to allow that. I do get lonely but I feel like that is not right because he is still staying in the same house although he is divorced from her. I am needing some advice on what I should do. He is getting ill at me because of this. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): trust your instincts. you are not his booty call. you deserve better and should get better.
also your kids are small, why subject them to all this. he will become a factor in their lives, give them hope that you all can be a family then he will duck. willleave them all devastated and you too. also you don't want to introduce a new man into their lives too soon, be selective and introduce a stable man in their lives. a man that matters and a man that will be there with you and your kids forever. you deserve this happiness and not some crums thrown at you by this man. good luck
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reader, baby_tinney +, writes (15 June 2009):
 dont make him a prioity when he is only making you an option.He needs to get him a place and be on his own before the two of you try anything.He may be getting divorced but if they still live together whos to say they may not have a change of heart and try to make it work.
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