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writes:dear all.i'm not a native english speaker, so apologies for eventual mistakes. I've got married with this guy for three years and I've found out from phone bills and internet records that he's been looking either for escorts and free sex for a long time. When I've confronted him, he answered that this might depend from a porn addiction, that he actually never had sex with these ladies but had simply asked question out of curosity. Now, among the long list of classified brothels that I've found, there is one number in paricular that he has been dialing over and over again. At least twice a week for a year! I wonder if its possible to call the same escort agency so many times, out of curiosity? Btw he agreed to seek counseling help, but I wanted to ask, is this a real disorder (calling escort and no showing up) or its just me being too naive? Shall I give him the benefit of the doubt? Thank you for yr answers and support.
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reader, honeyross  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Unfortunately, it's almost impossible to prove whether he's telling the truth or not. By trying to find proof, you are most likely only to make both you and him more upset.He might have become addicted to the excitement of calling and enquiring about an escort's services which, in many ways, is similar to becoming addicted to pornography.Your relationship clearly needs help. Without trying to excuse his behaviour - men aften do these things because they need help (either personally, or with their relationships), don't have the strength to confront the real problems, and so they retreat into a fantasy world.It's a positive sign for you both that he's agreed to seek help. Perhaps couple therapy could be considered?
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