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He's been hot and cold with me. X-box is more important than me. How to get BF more interested?

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Question - (26 July 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 27 July 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Me and my boyfriend have been together just short of 2 years. We're a normal couple I guess but he's not exactly perfect and neither am I. I panic a lot, I'm insecure from being cheated on in all past relationships but improved so much with my current boyfriend.

Anyway, the reason I'm seeking advice is because my friend came to stay at mine for a week and I only see her once every summer because of our lifestyles. My boyfriends been really hot and cold with me during this week. In person he's been all fine and lovey but by text he's decided to give a really obnoxious attitude off.

The past 2 days he's actually gone and ignored me out of the blue. I can't get in touch with him at all. I know he's not busy because he's been playing on his Xbox most of the day(unless that counts as busy in his books :P) but yeah I've kinda broke down and sent him quite a few texts throughout the two days asking him why he treats me like this and so on. Still no reply. I can't really see him until my friend goes home on Sunday and I just don't know where to go from here.

It may be some help that last week he started to claim that he felt like we were just friends because I hadn't seen him much as his house was having a lot of building work so he was jumping between my house, his house and his family's homes. I also just got a puppy which are hard enough work, I'm sure dog owners will know. I went to see him the day before I went for my friend and he was fine, it was a wonderful evening and I thought things would be fine.

I just don't know if he's jealous or just feels pushed out with me being too busy lately but I always find the time to give him a call or text him see how he's doing in the day.

Thanks to anyone who reads all of this, I know it's long.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (27 July 2012):

aunt honesty agony auntI guess your relationship has hit a rough part at the moment. It sounds to me like he might actually be a bit jealous that you are spending so much time looking after your puppy, to some people that might sound ridiculous but it actually happens quite a lot with pets, partners sometimes feel pushed out. Especially if you are busy with work as well and now you have a friend over for a week, he is probably just sulking.

However him ignoring you for no reason really is not fair off him. My advice would be not to message or call him again. Let him cool off or sulk alone, then once Sunday comes and you have some free time, suggest you both meet up to discuss whatever the problem is and see if you can both work on spending more time together as a couple.

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