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He's been giving hint that he wants us to be more

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Question - (28 December 2006) 8 Answers - (Newest, 4 March 2007)
A female United Kingdom, anonymous writes:

im am a 17 year old girl and i been sleeping with a 29 year old guy i made it clear to him he is only a booty call as i have a high sex drive and it get so bad i cant consentrate at school recently he been giving hint that he wants us to be more than f*ck buddies i would really like that as we get on well but the 12 year ages is big i dont mind it but my family and friends will i would like to date this guy but how can i if my family and friends will hate him wat shall i do

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2007):

Buy a vibrator if your sex drive is high. My god girl- 17? You definitely need to think about your priorities. I can understand that sex is new and exciting to you but eventually, it will start to be the same. Think about if you are doing this because of the thrill of an older man, or because you truly do love him. Trust me, once the sex drive slows down you won't have much left other than someone you have nothing in common with.

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A female reader, CurvesAndConvergence +, writes (1 January 2007):

finally..another girl that is in the boat with me..with the whole high sex drive and not being able to concentrate in school. man, its tough but theres nothing we can do except make a good time out of it. the day goes by faster when looking at the teachers buldge and wondering what his sex is like lol. your booty call..seems like a good time, but i wouldent consider 'being more' because once you make it more, you get bored. i know from experience. but do what you will girl. best of luck to you.

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A female reader, willywombat United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2006):

willywombat agony aunthaving just re read your question, I am doubting this is a real question at all. You say you have a sex drive so high you can't concentrate at school? C'mon, is this for real?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2006):

How can telling someone to conceal, omit, lie be good? Dishonesty is an ugly trait to develop and own...it has so many negative, bad consequences attached to it which will bring you such misery and unhappiness.

17 and already telling some man he is just a booty call? This isn't power and you are not in control.

Who taught you such an ugly attitude?

Having sex and being liberal with your body will bring you certain unhappiness. Your body should not be treated like some walk in clinic.

There is absolutely no respect going on here. NONE.

There are some things not worth compromising and your integrity is one of them.

Stop. Seek help and structure in you life ASAP as it is clearly evident that you lack it and every child needs it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006):

Where do you live exactly? If you live somewhere where the age of consent is 18, I would NOT tell friends and family right now. They could get him into very serious trouble, and trust me, they'd want to. Even if the age of consent is 17 or lower, they can still get him into legal trouble. I've seen parents throw everything from "Contributing to the delinquency of a minor" to orders of protection and restraining orders.

The best advice I can give is WAIT. Hold off sexual contact until you're 18. In the meantime, build a solid foundation for friendship. Get to know one another past the physical stuff.

When you're 18, and he'll be what, 30? Then decide what to do. If you feel the same about him, after really getting to know him--then go for it. At least then he can't be arrested.

Good luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2006):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i want to have more with him but not sure hwo id tell my family and friends his age

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A female reader, willywombat United Kingdom +, writes (29 December 2006):

willywombat agony auntOk, he wants more and you don't. There is an age difference. Have you told him how you feel, I mean straight out? I doubt it. Tell him.

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A female reader, lena +, writes (29 December 2006):

lena agony auntinvite him round as a friend first and see how the family reacts to that. if they like him start dating if they don't then you can still date him if you want its your choice! my mum is 33 and my step dad is 50 and my grandparents didn't approve, they still don't like my step dad now but they are sivil. just because your parents may not like the age gap they may still like the man. and if they don't tough, if your happy thats all that matters your old enough to stand on your own to feet and make your own decisions.

good luck xxxx

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