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writes:My boyfriend of 6 months has backed off and gotten distant. Our kids are not getting along-he says he loves me but when we have our kids he wants to keep them apart for a little while. When I tried to tell him about my feelings and how I wasnt feeling important to him anymore--and that I needed 100% of him in this relationship, he said I was stressing him out by being needy and clingy. We had been together alot before the past two weeks, and a week ago he told me he loved me and wanted to make it work. Unfortunatly I was feeling low and proceeded to tell him what I needed from him in the relationship. Well-We have both had the kids this Thanksgiving weekend and we havent seen each other. He calls once or twice a day- But hasnt said when we would see one another. We have no kids tomorrow or the next day- do I wait for him to suggest getting together. Or ask? Before all this we both just assumed we would be together . I dont want to mess this up. Can anyone help me? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (30 November 2008):
 Hi,
I would call him why wait for him to call i can see his point in having the kids apart for a little while as kids can come between people and it has only been 6 months not a long time for kids to get along and they will need more time than this to come to terms with the fact your a couple.
Patience is a virtue they say and it has to come into play here because he is feeling stressed maybe because of the kids maybe they are giving him a hard time when your not with him?
He needs to feel relaxed and loved when with you and telling him you need him in the relationship 100% i can understand as a woman you saying this for men though it may have come accross as demanding!
Give him time he clearly loves you and is just needing time to adjust to all of this once the problem with the kids settle down he might too your doing the right things your putting the kids first you two need to come second just take it slow and i am sure it will all work out fine good luck.
Ginalolabridga
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