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writes: my bf recently asked me to move in with him what I need to know is should I??im 19 yrs old and my bf 25.we were together 3 months broke up 4 a month and got back together 5 weeks ago.What he doesnt know is that when we had broken up me and his friend/housemate (who hes bought half his house with) had a bit of...fun. everyday he tells me how much he loves me and we cant be away from each other more than a day.he tells me how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and will do absolutly anything for me. He has changed so much since we broke up. but hes already breifly mentioned marrage. What should I do??
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reader, girly 101 +, writes (22 December 2006):
girly 101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I forgot to mention was me and his housemate are really really good friends and have been for years, I have no 'special' feelings for him. At the time I saw no hope of me and my BF getting back together so I didnt see a problem with it.It was something I had always wanted to do even b4 I met my BF.I know he will be moving in the summer I dont know if it will be away from his housemate or not. I do have a lot of feelings for my BF but I dont know if I love him. I dont know if thats cause I got hurt when we broke up before or not. I know if I told him it would be over, weve always joked around and said what if...
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 December 2006):
 If you are serious about him, chances are he is going to find out eventually, so you had better tell him, so he has the choice of ending it, before it gets any more serious.
I have to ask the question the other aunt asked....why his housemate?
Unless your bf is really forgiving, I doubt this will work in the long run, esp if you keep this from him, and he finds out....and given your and the housemates history of actions...your BF WIll find out at some point.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2006):
Danger! Danger! Danger!
The friend owns half the house, and in the absence of any contract about who is supposed to buy out who and over what period of time, any rift between these two could be protracted, nasty and expensive.
You have gotten yourself into a difficult situation. I'd avoid ever sharing the house, and if you two do decide to marry in the future move completely away from the friend.
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reader, eddie +, writes (21 December 2006):
 I'm curious, of all the people you could have had a romp with, why your ex's housemate? IT just sounds like a messy choice. You need to really understand what you need and feel. You were under no obligations while apart from him but your choice was a little odd. Do you have feelings for the other guy?
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