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writes:I'm completely in love with this guy I know.We barely speak at school, but we have really intimate chats on MSN. When I saw him today, we just locked eyes.I get completely tongue-tied around him and stop speaking to my friends. He always seems to be looking when we see each other and he normally compliments me and tries to get my attention. I don't know if he likes me and I think he can be a bit of an ass to others at times, but he's always nice to me. Also i need some help to stop me getting so tongue-tied around him. And tips to show him I care.CHEERS!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLook guy i cannot be asked to argue it out with you on a computer and i don't care if i can't be bothered to write properly on the computer. I speak perfect English and write and spell well so I don't see what the point is in arguing it out. Shall we call it truce. I am still after all young and prefer to use abbreviated forms of words whilst using my computer. I cud rite lyk this wud u prefer that?
and at no point did i say wtf. I prefer to say what the badger.
Just leave it.
Thank you for all the other more helpful comments, you answered my original question.
THANKS!! xx
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reader, Uncle Sneaker + ♥, writes (8 July 2008):
 Oh yes I know exactly where you're coming from on this one. It's SO much easier to talk online than to talk face-to-face.
If he talks to you intimately online then yes he probably likes you. He's probably just as tongue-tied as you are when it's face to face.
Try smiling - not just staring blankly in total brain-lock when you see him face to face. Use the online conversation as a start-point for a real conversation - but do try to pick on the parts of the online conversation that were day-to-day stuff not anything over-the-top.
The fact that you remember the not-over-the-top parts of online conversations will help you to be able to talk normally to him, and will help tell him that you remember and take notice of what he says - which is important in any friendship of any sort and will show him you have a real interest.
AS I said, I completely understand why it's so much easier online. I freely admit that I say things to people online that I'd NEVER dare to say face-to-face!! Also, I recently found my son (aged 12) talking to the girl nextdoor (aged 13) on MSN on their laptops - and the two of them were sitting on the low wall between our two front gardens not more than three feet from each other!! You're certainly not alone in finding it easier to talk online.
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reader, Tisha-1  + ♥, writes (8 July 2008):
 What do you talk about on MSN? Why can't you just continue an online conversation with him in real life?
We all have gone through the tongue-tied thing with a crush. Just give it some time and you should be able to have a normal conversation with him. Try to focus on one thing that you two have just talked about on MSN, and talk about that.
And I too am concerned about him being an ass to others. Doesn't sound like a nice guy to me. But it does sound like he likes you. Why not pose a question to him on MSN?
As far as the title of your question is concerned, I think if I had moderated this question, I would have chosen a very similar title. Did you write one yourself? If you did, you could share it with us now, so that it might get the message across...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 July 2008):
 If he's an ass to others but nice to you I'd say that indicates that he likes you. However the fact that he's an ass to others says volumes about his character.
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (8 July 2008):
 If you're so good at the English language, why spell 'question' kwestion' and don't use capitalisation when referring to yourself as 'i' rather than 'I'?? And WTF is OMG?? I stand by my previous comment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you hadouken lover person and excuse me but i think i made it perfectly clear that it changed my question, and you are being rude ¬¬
I don't think your very au fait by speaking back to me in french. What i wanted to know was whether he likes me or not!! did i make that clear for you uncle phil when i said "does he like me or not?" don't be so rude! also i live in england and speak great english i'll have you know.
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (8 July 2008):
Obviously you're not terribly au fait with the English language or something.
Read your last sentence in the question out loud to yourself.
Now tell me - what were you wanting to know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionomg it completely changed my kwestion---- i said, does he like me or not? not how do i show him i care!! GRRR!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionomg it completely changed my kwestion---- i said, does he like me or not? not how do i show him i care!! GRRR!
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reader, Hadouken! +, writes (8 July 2008):
 Well I think you first need to relax when you're around him. You're nervous because of the intimate chats, and you don't know how to react when it's a face-to-face conversation like that. It's a completely different situation with the same person. Try talking to him when you're with your friends and he's with his. That way you'll never have that awkward silence, and you'll start to relax more. Take it to the next step by meeting him on weekends or after school if you like. You don't have to rush anything, but if you find yourself liking him even more, see how that goes.
He'll know you care by how much attention you pay him. Don't make him think you're obsessed with him or anything, but let him see that you're interested in things he has to say or particular interests of his. He'll soon see that you're a good friend and maybe more!
Good luck :)
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