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writes:Anytime I'm around this certain guy, I noticed he's observing me quite often, watching things I do, like he's interested in how I do every little thing. Now it's not constantly, like creepy, but it's very often, I even feel his eyes watching me when I turn my back. It's like he's observing me. One time I caught him staring and he stared back for 2 seconds and turned his head very quickly and stared off at nothing, had a very sharp head turn and look to his face...I also noticed that when he is not looking at me, it seems like he becomes more cold and is trying very hard to NOT look at me, almost awkward and not natural...one time we were in a group and he was sitting in a chair with his back to me and when I started telling a story he didn't turn around to look at me when I was talking...like he was trying to show disinterest, but it wasn't natural, everyone else naturally turned to me and listened. Also, the other day someone did something funny and I turned to look at him (cause he was next to me) to laugh at the situation, and he just smiled straight ahead and didn't even look to me to laugh together at the person, like normal people usually do...If I do something cute or silly while he's watching, he usually giggles too...can a guy friend just find you amusing or entertaining, or is it usually something more when they watch you this much?He's a pretty self absorbed person so he doesn't show interest in others very easily...so if someone is always 'watching you', does that mean anything? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2017): I have a bus driver who does that to me every time he's in the bus station when I'm waiting for my bus.
He stares way too long although it doesn't freak me out. Oh yeah he's younger and married.I say married because he wears a ring on his ring finger.
Sometimes he'll plain unashamedly stare and sometimes he'll look away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2014): You speak of men as though we're from another planet.
Men look at women for all the reasons you suggested. Why don't you introduce yourself to the man and have a conversation? That is the only sure way to find out if he is attracted to you. Stop guessing. You can't rule out anything, until you actually talk to the man and find out.
Don't look for guarantees or absolutes about anything, when it comes to human-nature. His reasons are in his head. For him to know, and you to find out!
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (6 August 2014):
 The thing which suggests that he may have some feelings for you is the fact he suddenly looks away and acts awkward when you catch him looking.
If he was simply looking at you because he finds you interesting, then why would he act all awkward and nervous when you realize? Its almost like he doesn't want you to catch on.
However we aren't mind readers, there is a chance he could be looking at you because he admires you or finds you very interesting, but even if I admire someone/find someone interesting I don't observe them as much as you have said this guy does, which suggests he may find you attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, so there's no other reason why a guy would observe you like that? Like would a guy observe a woman cause he finds her quirky or interesting, or just different from him, or maybe he just admires her, looks up to her even, maybe as a sisterly figure? I just want to rule out the other options...I know I'm a very confident, happy, fun, friendly type of girl, people tend to like me very easily as a person, not to too my own horn...so part of me thinks maybe he just admires me, but do guys really 'admire' girls, or just flat out find them attractive and like them?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (5 August 2014):
I think its most likely that he probably likes you. Eye contact and observation are very big key signs in relationships. Even psychologists claim that by studying peoples body language and eye contact you can actually get a bit of an idea of what is going on in their heads at that particular moment. If you watch a couple you will see that they have more eye contact with eachother than usual, they also pay more attention to things such as the way the other person moves, the things they say and there facial expressions, they do this because they feel something for this person which causes them to pay more attention. Its also a classic sign when a male in particular observes you a lot that they may have feelings for you. Also as everytime you look at him he kind of turns away from you is also another classic sign as by hiding the fact he is looking at you is a sign that he is trying to "hide" something else in particular. And that thing could of course be the fact he is attracted to you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 Iould be that you remind him of someone he knows very well and is just facinated by your likeness to her, OR, it could be he's a dsangerous stalker. However, it's probably that you are a facinating person and hefinds beauty in your actions. It is very hard to not look at beauty. Take a sunset for example..try not to look at one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2014): Yes it does.
That's how I met the guy I'm dating now. I was was in the gardening center at a major home supplies store. I felt someone staring me down. I looked around and didn't meet any eyes in my direction. I just felt I was being watched. Then I just figured it was store-security making me self-conscious. There were no employees looking my direction or even close-by...that's one of their problems by the way. I needed some assistance! I needed a certain type of fertilizer.
I looked over and notice a muscular mature man with tattooed arms. He quickly looked away. So I went about my business, and the weird feeling came over me again. I looked up, his eyes locked with mine. I looked away, and took a quick peep over my shoulder. He was still looking.
I had a few interesting plants in my cart, so he came over and asked me where I got them. They were on a huge display, and I chuckled and asked where's his glasses. He laughed.
He was busted. So we had a chat, and he gave me some great suggestions for my garden. Now we're seeing each other.
Maybe you need to talk directly to him. You have caught him on so many occasions watching you. He just isn't sure of what would be the right approach, but he is enjoying the view. That is surely a sign he finds you attractive!
You are probably graceful and meticulous. Some women have a grace in movement, that you can just watch them for hours. So he enjoys watching you. If it doesn't make you feel weird, it's in the right way. Walk-over and speak to the guy. Give him an opportunity to speak to you, and he'll know there is more than what meets the eye. Glad I did!
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