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writes:I'm 22 years old and just got my first boyfriend 7 months ago. In the past I had what my mom would call "practice dates" but nothing serious. Originally I didn't want to date him for some pretty shallow reasons. One of which is the fact that he is a few inches shorter than me. As much as I now love him I can't help but feel insecure about the height difference. When we are out in public I feel like people are staring at us because of the height difference. My best friend whom I've known since 3rd grade points out the fact that he is short all the time and not in a joking fashion. I value her opinion and it bothers me that she thinks we look weird together. But every other person always says how cute we are. He couldn't be a sweeter guy, intelligent, and treats me incredibly well. I can't help but feel like we have a real future together, I'm just having height issues. Is it really that big of a deal? Is she jealous or does she have a valid point? I love him but can't help but secretly feel that we look weird together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): You can't be bothered with what other people think or you'll never be happy. I'm almost 5'11 and my boy friend is 5'6 and I love him more than anything and I'm going to marry him. In the beginning I ignored him because I thought I could never get over the height difference but luckily we reconnected months later and the rest is history. He's the sweetest, most amazing person I know and I would have missed out on the love of my life if I let the height difference get in the way. If you're happy, that's all that matters :)
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reader, Dipsydoodlenoodle  +, writes (6 March 2008):
I wouldn't worry about it, you like him, he likes you!I'm 5ft 10 and my bf is 5ft 6ish. We are almost on for 2 years now, I did put off dating him for a while also due to the height issue. I totally know where you are coming from. Thankfully we had all of the height jokes at the beginning and people accept it now. If you do notice there are a lot of women out there who are going out with shorter men. It doesn't generally bother me anymore although the a while ago his brother said "you two look like the original yellow pages advert" - I dont know if you have it the USA, but the yellow pages is a phone book and on the advert the girl is pouting under misteltoe and he tries to reach up and kiss her but he is just too short so he pulls along a phone book, stands on it and gets his kiss - that upset me especially from someone so "close". We both make jokes about him being short, and I think so long as you two can laugh about it to yourselves then it's fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy best friend is single and has had several failed relationships unlike myself whom haven't. She is hypercritical about a lot of things and almost no one is right for her. The thing is that we agree on a lot of the same things when it comes to guys. I know its common knowledge that people tend to believe the bad things as opposed to the good, maybe that's just the case here. Thanks for your advice it helps getting an unbiased opinion about silly things like this! (Generally friends tell you what you want to here)
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reader, happytochat  + ♥, writes (5 March 2008):
Your friend is jealous. She KNOWS you value her opinion so much and is taking advantage of that. There is nothing wrong with your bf being shorter then you. The fact that so many other people tell you you two look cute together and shes the only one saying its bad, suggests she is jealous and there is nothing more to it. Honestly, dont worry about it. Sure it may look a bit different to what people are used to seeing but its not a big deal.
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (5 March 2008):
 love does'nt come is any certain shapes or sizes. if you truly feel that this guy treats you right, than thats all that really counts. you should'nt let the slight height difference get in the way of your relationship. your friend may be jealous if she is single, but you can't help the fact that you have fallen for this guy. you shouldnt let anyones opinions change the way you feel towards your boyfriend.
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