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*ristabella
writes:I am 20 and my boyfriend of six months is 18. we started off having great sex even though he was a virgin. However, now once hes got an erection, its a fight against time to penetrate me before he loses it. Once inside me it goes soft. i know this is probably not my fault but i can't help feeling unattractive and a dissappointment. It is the same when i give him head, although when i use my hand its not a problem for him to cum. Lately, i am sure hes been faking orgasm because i cannot feel him pulsate inside me, which i used to.please help, its making me quite depressed.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 February 2007):
 I wouldn't worry about it too much, I think he's very nervous and probably feels your disappointment when he can't hold an erection and the more he thinks about it the more anxious he's becoming, hence the reason for him going flacid on you. Give him plenty of encouragement and reasurrance, let him know he's the best lover ever and that you can't get enough of him. Oooooh and aaaaaah just a little bit louder and I'm sure you'll see a difference.
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reader, can'tsleepever  +, writes (20 February 2007):
He's probably just nervous, as even I get sometimes when I'm with my girlfriend. It's completely normal, and it seems to me to also be pretty common for the woman to feel unattractive.Don't feel that way. It's probably just that way because of nerves. And not to say that you're not attractive, but try being more sexy and inviting... I know my girlfriend was having troubles with that, and we found out that that fixed the problem up right away.As with every romantic problem, communication is the key. Remember that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Sounds like you should talk with him- he might have some emotional barriers or secrets hes keeping- or he might not be kept stimulated long enough etc.. Ask him what can keep him turned on and ask him if he has other things- dont make it sound like hes not pleasing you- focus on how you can please him etc. Get into his head- there may be some underlying issues to work with.
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