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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I feel my partner is cheating, because at the end of her period when she has stopped bleeding she seems slack and she makes vaginal noises, also even when she is not on her period. I try to talk to her but I always seem to make a a***e of it.. can anyone help me with this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): lol poor guy…GIRL POWER! your wife just has an old vagina i think…or maybe a nice big yummy vibrator lol
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (19 February 2009):
shouldn't you know better then to think that she is cheating just because her vagina makes noises and is a little slack!
just because her vagina makes noises does not mean that she has been with another man, it's just from where the air gets thrusted into her from your penis. the slackness is probably just due to her age and your penis! women don't remain tight forever you no. god some men need to grow up!
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reader, Tisha-1  + ♥, writes (19 February 2009):
 I'm sure she is absolutely fed up with the way you are poking around in her vagina to see if she's feeling slacker, what a romance-killer. And you're probably trying to figure out how much slacker she is, so you're wiggling things around and introducing air, which is then expelled, causing those vaginal noises. Does she use tampons, by the way? Because those could also be introducing little pockets of air.
One more thing on the whole 'slack' thing, at the end of a period, there is is less discharge but there is still extra fluid that might be making her feel 'slack.'
Look, please tell me that you have more evidence than a 'slack' feeling and some varts. That you have caught her making surreptitious calls or hastily deleting emails or someone has spotted her out to dinner. If all you have is slack and varting, um, you do need to do that research and educate yourself.
Poor thing, she's probably getting really fed up by the crude and cynical gynecological exam that seems to be occuring.... that would really put a damper on the ol' lovelife right there.
Why not simply ask her? Tell her you're concerned and worried? Don't mention the vaginal stuff, that will simply make you look silly.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (19 February 2009):
 At your age you should know better than this.
Did you never do any research on female genitalia? Have you not communicated with any of your past partners or your current one about sexuality?!
At over 40 years of age, you need to educate yourself.
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reader, Cerberus  + ♥, writes (19 February 2009):
 Gina's right, you really jumped the gun on this one, should have done a bit of research before you went off asking her why her vagina is loose.
I didn't know 'til I read Gina's post that the vagina can become loose during menstruation but I wouldn't go asking my girlfriend either.
How old is she? If she's the same age as you then it's likely she's also in the early stages of menopause, if I were you I'd read up on menopause and what it does to women's bodies before you start freaking out about the other changes that are going to happen.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (19 February 2009):
 I cannot believe you would think this if you think she is cheating on you just come straight out and ask her and to answer your question most women are a bit loose after a period and if this is your only reason for suspecting her then i ought to warn you that she may not take lightly to your accusations based on this assumption you have.
Our bodies always make noises even down there i would be concerned about you making a wrong judgement here i really dont think you can accuse anyone of cheating on you based on this.
Gina
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